Worried about the consquences of going to GP

[DaftBugger]

I think i should be going to my GP. I am worried that the consquences will outway the good it may do me. Will it mean i ahve to tell my life insurance company? Will ss get involved? My dh has a shotgun licence what if it effect that. Plus i'm starting to look for a job, don't some apps ask if you have it.

I know i ahve been dealing with this for many years, but i think it may be worse, I know dh is worried about me. My dad has got cancer and he's not going to make it. I am scared that i will have a complete breakdown when that happens as i have found it very hard to deal with over the last year.

Please be truthful with me.

Ask if you have what? Depression? Feeling suicidal? Try to name it, at least on here - nothing to be ashamed of.

If life insurance companies, ss etc would get involved everytime someone is diagnosed depressed in the UK it would occupy them full time. It is so incredibly common. Don't let it stop you from getting help.

I have no idea about shotgun licencing but I think the more important question is whether you are likely to do something stupid with that gun? If you ever think or worry or phantasise about that you MUST see your GP because your mental health is far more important than any licence or insurance.

Job applications usually ask if you have an illness or condition that will impact on your ability to do the job and how much time off sick you have had in the past year.

But again if you are worried about a total breakdown now is the time to talk to your GP - you need to prioritise.

so sorry to hear about your dad i have had to go through same thing with my stepdad(he was just the same as a dad to me). if your doctor is easy to talk to you could voice your concerns to him/her off the record. thats what i did i too was worried about social services getting involved which i assure you never happened. i was advised by my gp the fact i was doing something about my depression and anxiety was a positive thing and showed i was acting responsibly. hope someone comes along for you with some better advice. good luck

Sounds like you are going through a really tough time at the moment. Are you feeling suicidal, as I don't understand the shotgun bit?

I would see the GP, as it looks as though you need some extra help. As far as I am aware the life insurance company does not need to know you have some problems at the moment.

Hope you are ok.

Thanks for the quick replies.

Just to make it clear I'm not going to shoot myself, just don't want him to lose out on his hobby. I do not have access to them and have no need to ahve access to them.

Do I feel suicidal? I have the fleating moments that come with how I feel periodically. In the moment it seems like the way out but only last for a few seconds, then of course the guilt sets in. Its certainly not something i'm going to do.

I think I have depression, anixety at the very least. Its something I have had for many years. I know my mum has it but it is not spoken about.

Sounds like there is a distinct possibility you would feel a lot better with a course of anti depressants and or counselling and no one else except your GP has to know about it!

And I can't see how it would impact your dh's licence - but i am sure he rather has you well in any event!

All the best

Right then. I think you should go along to the GP. Depression affects so many people, I would expect half the people in the waiting room are in there for some form of mental health issues (or swine flu atm!) so it would make sense to do this.

As mad says some anti d's may be all you need to do the trick.

Please go to your GP. I have been treated for depression and there is no down side. I have never been asked about it for life insurance or a job application or anything else. As madmouse says its very common, GPs see depressed people all the time unfortunately. Please take care of yourself by getting some help.

DaftBugger- my dad had shotgun and other licences when I was a teen and I didn't hafe access to the safe - I suffered depresion and it didn't seem to make any difference to his licence at all.

giveitago - thanks for that i would be gutted if it had any effect on it. I know they ask about his metal health history.

Dear Daft.
I just want to reassure you. I had depression very severely, and was hospitalised for 3 months with it. There was never any question of taking my baby away. I had a visit from SS once, and they were genuinely lovely to me, concerned about us as a family. They could see that we were a loving family.

One of the ladies I was in hospital with had more intervention from SS but I think that was more in terms of support for her as she was a single mum.

You should definitely get help. I am on mirtazapine and it's helped me hugely. I had forgotten what feeling "normal" was like but am starting to feel happy again and it is so wonderful.

sorry you feel scared,you have lot on your plate.do go to gp,if you feel inhibited write stuff down

most mental health is dealt eith in community gp and cmht and mental state is monitored AD prescribed and vast majority of people are maintained in own home.A good gp will be empathic and try understand you and your unique concerns.

will ask questions about

you
social situation (who do you live with etc)
previous history or episodes of mental health issues
any family mh diagnosis
any exacerbating circumstances (do tell about the CA)

so sorry about your dad.that also adds to your anxieties.did you know most hospitals will offer support and advice for families and can advise on local groups
macmillan links

a ss referral would only be initiated if there were sufficient grounds to warrant cause for alarm.so gp and mental health doesn't necessarily mean your children getting carted off

please don't be scared, do go see gp.let someone help.

eat well,good nutrition and getting out
meaningful activity eg walk,book,something you like
light exercise eg 15-20min walk
maintain social contact
don't bottle stuff up

Thanks for your comments ladies. I really appricate them.