Therapy tomorrow - oh crap

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I know I will have to tell her how I am feeling but what is the point when she doesn't really tell me what to do or what she thinks I should do or how she thinks I can sort myself out?

Depression is the least of my worries atm tbh.

Hey Fab

What would be the point of her telling you what to do? You are an adult and she cannot live your life. She can - if she is good - help you find your own solutions. Mine certainly does.

And you don't have to start by telling her how you are feeling - that is hard enough at the best of times. YOU can take to the session what YOU need to talk about whatever it is. Give it a chance!

I have had several sessions with her already and all she seems to say is that something is interesting and that X seems very important to you. I never come out and feel like a problem has been dealt with even in a tiny way. I also find it so weird that when I ring my DH to tell him about the session I can't really remember much of it.

Therapists don't normally tell you what to do. Tell her that you don't feel like she is helping you with your problems, it might help to get that out in the open. It's ok to be critical or angry.

Is this person centred counselling? It sounds like you may need something with a bit more challenge and direction. (You will still need to find your own solutions though...)

you need to establish a therapeutic rapport,understand why you are there what the issues are, your is subjective opinion

maybe don't hope someone else to come up with solutions,there is no magic pill, no cure all therapy

After all the worry she has cancelled.

I told her I don't like going, don't know what her plan is and don't know how it is going to help. I know what my problems are. Just don't know how to not let them take over.