And has been for the last 6 months, up and down, on and off, but only tonight did anyone let me know.
I live 100 miles away, parents visit every week to see DS (nearly 6mo) and I suppose me. Dad (retired) and DB (unumployed) have gone to stay with family, I am am going tomorrow, mum on Thurs. I asked dad a 'housekeeping' question about where we are staying, to which the reply was that mum had not told him that, she's not been talking much, just sitting in the evening not able to speak much. Now the fact that she told me this thing (irrelevant detail) last week, and that she would probably have told him had he (db & he) not decided to go a day early while mum at work is just an illustration of how useless he is at communicating. No wonder she's depressed, but I don't know what I can do about it if I don't know. I am so upset and worried for her, WHY DID NO ONE TELL ME???? Yes I have a baby but I am on Mat leave, I could help. He frustrates me so much.
She is on ADs and has been for years, and has had counselling. I asked my dad if she'd been to the dr. she has tried to make an appointment but not been able to get through. (He doesn't work, he is able to make appointment!!!!). Agh. I'm sorry, this I am sure just illustrates my lack of understanding of mental health issues, it's probably me who is the problem, but still.
What can I do? Someone tell me how to help. Obviously am very frustrated with dad and brother, but also feel terribly, terribly guilty that I did not realise.
Please don't flame me. I'm just upset.