My dad lost his brother 6weeks ago now.
He was in shockk for 2weeks and functioned normally and cried normally.
2 days after the funeral so 2 weeks after the death my dad became very anxious and began to lose more sleep and his appetite.
His stomach was the main symptom.Does everyone know what I mean when I say the stomach turns over,butterflies but a hundred times worse,nervous feelings etc.My dad has always had an anxiety issue and it always goes straight to his tummy.He has never had to be treated for it and has lived with it ok.It hasnt affected his every day living.
He did had a breakdown 20yrs ago and was admitted to hosp to be observed and supported back to normal health he then carried on as normal.
He has a lot of stress in his life.My parents live in an absolute shit hole.I have with my dads say so got them on the housing needs register so they can get out of there as its almost unhabitable.It really is the pits. Its a long story really,had council round lots of sorting out on my behalf and has been an upsetting journey.They were offerd a lovely flat in a lovely area but hey, my wonderful, giving, thoughtful mother refused to move and came up with lots of excuses and even thought my dad should remortgage(at the age of 62) and do the house up!!Just to give you a rough idea how bad the house is,it should sell for £130.000 but they were quoted as a drive by valuation and on the information given by me, it would sell for £40.000 tops!
I had to go back in to the house after leaving it 11 yrs ago.It brought back lots of memories bla bla bla.
Back to my dads health.
6days after the funeral I took dad to the docs to find a solution to the anxiety in his tummy.Doc put him on ad's.I demanded he be seen by a mental health team so the doc reluctantly did a referral.
The next day I spoke to dad on the fone and I made the decision to take him to a and e(not the right place i know but desperate)
They gave him some diazapan (which I should add my dad had already been given this when he took himself to the docs a week after the passing,so 3 days before the funeral)and sent him on his way back the that shit hole.
I then received a call asking from the mental health team for an appointment 2 days after the a and e visit.
We attended the appointment and he was assessed.Lady referred straight to the crisis team that evening.The appointment could not take place at his home where it would normally take place as the house is not suitable for people to go in and my dad just could not cope with the embarrassment and stress of it all.
The crisis team asked all the right questions and came up with sleeping tablets.
My dad refused to let people in the house so he could not be officialy transferred to the crisis team and be on their books!
This is such a long story and i must go loo and scared of losing all this so posting now