not coping with life and work

[twowheels]

Hi I've not posted for ages and ages now. Wanted to post today as I am not coping with work and looking after my DS.

I am supposed to be working at home today to complete a project but I feel so full of anxiety and sure that I can't do the project.

I feel I cant cope with my job - 3 days a week spread over 5 days. I feel so stressed out by it and anxious nealry all the time. My boss says I shouldnt worry so much but I still do

I so much want to leave but am scared of not having enough money to live on. We cant really live on DP's salary alone.

I am so tempted to hand my notice in so that I don't have to deal with all the stress.

I am finding it so hard to combine work with my 6 year old DS.

Does anyone have any help to get me through? I am in tears most of the time today and feel so unhappy.

Two wheels have you spoken to your GP? Maybe a short break from work to catch up with home things would help you to deal with the immediate stress?

There are some fab things to help on various websites (see the links above - I found Sane and Samaritans great), about how to prioritise what needs doing, and ignore the non essential stuff.

I found that having lists / menu plans helps as I do not have to 'think' in the chaotic post school / making the tea time.

Also can your dp help out more?
And even at 6 your ds could help too - I have a 6 yr old ds and he loves helping do things like loading the dishwasher, buttering and jamming their toast, laying the table, even loading the washing machine and putting in the powder etc OK it takes longer to start with but once they get better at it, works really well

I also found a morning routine good - I used to have a nightmare getting them dressed until we instigated a 'no going downstairs until you are dressed' rule - especially as they wanted to watch the TV / play on the Wii which is of course downstairs Routines work for any time of course, I just find the mornings worst as I am definitley not a morning person

Hope you feel betetr soon

I had a similar problem recently (January) and posted on here. I saw my GP and was signed off work for 2 weeks. During this time, I met with my line managers at work to determine where the pressure points were & how they could help alleviate them.

Like you, I desperately wanted to hand in my notice, but DH was out of work at the time, so couldn't afford to. I have since cut down my hours, as DH now has work.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Hi cheapskatemum
thanks for your post - i may do the same. i am talking with boss next week. have already asked to reduce hours but they said no.

Hi twowheels. You posted on my thread so I know we are feeling the same issues at the moment. I hope you aren't feeling too bad this evening. I felt better over the weekend but the thought of Monday is making me feel panicky.

My GP has referred me for counselling which i hope will help so it might be worth trying that. Otherwise, just wanted to say you aren't alone, if that helps at all. I am also thinking seriously of leaving my job. It involves huge sacrifices including moving house but I cannot do it all anymore.

Keep talking here if it helps.