Im having a really bad day.

[spookycharlotte121]

Yesterday I had a wonderful day out with my family.... went to pick the dc's up from their dads and he just burst my bubble. He was so nasty to me. I have had a really bad upset stomache all night and have been sick from where he has upset me so much.
I thought sleeping on it would sort it out but I just feel like shit today and cant get over it. I feel really crap. Im on citalopram and they have made a real difference to how I feel and im a much happier person than i used to be..... just not sure how to cope today. I have a lot of important things to get done and I cant do it..... just want to stay in my pj's and eat cookies.

Sorry to hear that SC. I know that personally, if i let myself go down the 'i cant face the world/doing anything today' route i despise myself by the end of the day - which makes everything even worse!

I have been using something from Flylady - you know, the strange american cleaning woman - she says that you can do anything for 15minutes - so i set my timer and say to myself that i can stop when it goes off. I have successfully motivated myself to really clean the living room, when i really wanted to curl up and cry instead.

Give it a go - it cant hurt, and then your horrible ex won't have ruined another day for you. xx

I could try doing stuff for 15 mins, the house is ok. could do with doing some washing but other than that its not too bad,I just have a stack of uni work to do and I dont know how to start...... just feel like getting back in bed.

I really hate my ex

I need to cook dinner but all the pans are dirty.......... sometimes i wonder if my kids would be better off living with someone else. I feel like such a shit mum. theyre so perfect and amazing and im crap..... i mean im struggling to even cook them tea.

aw, spooky - set the timer - go on, i know it sounds stupid, but just dont even think about it, just start washing up. @then do beans on toast or something really easy but still nutritious.

the fact that you love your children so much, means you are not a shit mum, and you actually love them so much you wonder if you are good enough for them. No one else could love them like you do.

Now go and wash up! (soz, not being a bully, but it will make you feel better i promise)
xx

thanks pooter.... did some washing up and have thrown some mince onto cook. just feel like a right failure today.... and will feel stupid and selfish when ium out of this downer.

well done. I know what its like when somedays even the most trivial mundane task seems insurmountable, then the next day i feel invincible. A nice even keel would be welcome Hope you feel your normal self soon.

Im sure i will be ok tomorrow. I have been doing really well recently but then yesterday my ex was just so nasty to me and its just hit me like a tonne of bricks. Im not sure how to deal with him when he gets in to one of his aggressive moods..... think I might have to get someone else to drop the kids off and pick them up..... i dont want contact with him anymore.

That sounds like a good idea. you have to protect yourself from situations that can make you feel so down. Im on citalopram too - great stuff . I do things like avoid reading anything depressing and i have even gotten rid of our TV so i dont watch any news or violent/sad programmes. We have to look after ourselves so we can look after our children the way we want to.

hope tomorrow will be a new dawn, and try not to think about your horrible ex. Maybe if you put some plans in place for someone else to drop off and pick up your children it would make you feel better about the future too.