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Will my marriage survive PND?

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MyFirstAlter · 08/05/2009 17:32

I've had PND since October last year. I'm taking Citalopram 40mg, seeing a psychiatrist monthly and having weekly counselling.

DH has been a great help and support all the way since I first got ill - helping out round the house more and being there for me, taking up as much of the slack I've left as he can considering he works full time.

Problem is that DH has a high sex drive. I used to have one too prior to the PND. Up until recently I've been forcing myself to cater to his needs as it were to keep him happy but just recently I haven't been able to do this. He's not 'getting any' and he's really not happy about it. He's constantly trying it on, groping. Getting stroppy when I say no.

His patience is starting to wear thin with everything - I can't talk to him about how I'm feeling now as he just huffs and walks off, he's starting to not take up the slack any more so things don't get done.....

I'm generally feeling better day on day, the good days are far more frequent than the bad days so I'm wondering if reducing my anti depressant dose might make me more in the mood?

I really feel the lack of sex could kill this marriage.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 08/05/2009 17:34

In sickness and in health.

You have to talk to him and make him see that him acting like a spoilt child is hardly going to make you want to rip his clothes off.

HelensMelons · 08/05/2009 17:58

Agree with fab.

Things sound like they are starting to get better for you, it takes a bit of time and it's great when there's more good days than bad - this is his issue.

ouchitreallyhurts · 08/05/2009 18:05

can you show him some pnd websites perhaps - like APNI or mothersvoice - both shoudl have leaflets that will explain how libido dips with mood.
its all temporary and I have to agree with Fabulousbakergirl - it is in sickness and in health and PND is a sickness the same as any physical one, only difference is you can't 'see it' like you could a broken leg.

keep the lines of communication open - even if its via letter or email xx

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