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What's the official term for this sort of behaviour?

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admylin · 06/05/2009 07:53

My h is always negative, he never sees the good in anything that happens to us. He can't see how lucky he is and he never appreciates anything. He was hyper active as a child. He was never treated or given help so all I know is he couldn't sit still and has irregular sleep patterns, was very bossy and loud but insisted on silence from other members of the family to leave him in peace. Last night he watched a programme about health and every case that came on, he said he would rather die that get that, then a case of macular degeneration came on and he was hiding under his blanket saying oh god, oh god, I really must get some cyanide ready just incase I get that.

We have 2 great, clever and well behaved dc but he always nags at them as if they are bottom of the class wastes of time. I've also suspected that he is depressed sometimes but it's the negativity that I can't bear anymore. What could it be?

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morningsun · 06/05/2009 10:27

Could it be that because he finds it difficult to maintain his inner equilibrium and calm,he has to shield himself from stimuli he doesn't like, such as worrying diseases,children etc?
Or could it be a reflection on how he was parented~negatively,because his behaviour wasn't understood and was challenging/irritating?

admylin · 06/05/2009 10:40

Yes, he was parented in a very different way to I am used to (first born of 10 dc, educated family but looked after by iliterate maids and servants) and small things stress him for no reason, things that any normal adult would just sort out get him philosophising and worrying.

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