Is this all that my life is about now ? Feel guilty just typing it

[Killamarsh]

Does anyone have days where life is just so shit? changing nappies, washing, jeremy kyle, I have gone from a busy independant working lady, to a grumpy old and fat mum over night. I wonder if this is all that life is about now, its driving me mad. I love my little girl very much, but I need more from life, am I depressed or a bad mum or just normal ? Some days I get so low I dont want to move or talk to anyone.

Every day is like that for me - minus Mr Kyle - but I have to make self go do interesting things, or treat type stuff (spray tan!) to stop me getting down.

Can you do that or are there obstacles such as money, depression, transport?

How old is your DD? And is she your first? If you've only given birth relatively recently there could be some PND going on there (in which case seek medical advice). A friend of mine who gave birth to twins within the last year said she makes a point of doing SOMETHING - even just a quick walk to the park for 15 minutes, or a coffee with a mate - every day, and it really helped her over the cabin fever state that the early days/weeks/months of motherhood can lock you in.

Yes, she is my first and 7 months old, thanks for the tips

I felt that way particularly after ds1. It's got better with nr 2 and 3. Keeping busy really helps. The gym (has a creche), the coffee shop, p&t groups, walks when the weather's nice and a book on the go all help. Found pre-school/nursery/reception have really widened my pool of friends too. How old is your little girl?

Definitely get out everyday, even if you do not feel like it.
I felt rubbish after my DS was born, went from a job that entailed lots of travel, to being atuck at home day after day with a colicky baby. I doubt I actually had PND, but the adjustment was huge and I spent a lot of time regretting decision to start a family.
Getting out helped, and I also tried to make sure I would go out one evening a week once DH got in. I found that going to the gym/running helped.

I sooooo know how you feel. every day feels like ground hog day doesn't it. i had to have a self imposed telly ban - it just made me feel sluggish and dd got bored as hell too. i HAVE to get out of the house for at least an hour a day with dd. i go to the park, walk around shopping centres or to playcentres (most are free for children under 1).
your dd is getting to the age where you can interact with her much more, and it's important to stimulate her, and it will interest you so much more than jeremy kyle. that programme in itself is depresssing - don't let your baby listen to that crap.
i found it really hard to play with dd - i din't have a clue what to do with her. she really enjoyed nursery rhymes and different noises and peekaboo at 7 months. sorry if i'm telling you basic stuff you already know but in my own experience, i truly didn't know how to play with such a young baby. it does get easier as they get older.