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Anxiety, Fear worsened by local "hoodies" situation

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MrsCravendale · 29/04/2009 20:54

We moved to a "regeneration" area about 4 years ago when it was really hard for 1st time buyers to get a mortgage. The only place we could afford was in an area that was pretty rough but the local council had put lots of money into regenerating the area. When we initially moved, we lived on a buidling site as it was phase 1 new build and there was constant street battles between gangs of local neds/hoodies. If they weren't fighting amongst themselves, they were tagging the streets and marching around in gangs singing and shouting and basically intimidating all the new build owners. They would pull up the fencing and throw it at our houses. When the police turned up, they would scatter and it would all start again the next night.

Things cleared up for a while and all was semi quiet until recently. Several homes have had windows smashed, car windows smashed, tagged with graffiti and gangs have started to hang about in the street. People are terrified and there don't seem to be many police around anymore.

The thing is, I spend a lot of time on my own with DS who is still just a baby and I am incredibly intimidated. I already have severe anxiety and this is really making it worse. No houses round here are selling at all at the moment - we had planned to be out of here by now (as I am sure is the case with many) but the "credit crunch" means we are basically stuck here for the time being and I am terrified.

This is soooo driving me crazy - I am a complete mess. I don't even know why I am posting this but I feel like such a pathetic wimp just sitting here watching it happen but I can't confront a gang of neds. Especially when half of them carry knives... if not all.

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nickytwotimes · 29/04/2009 20:58

That is awful MrsCravendale.
I am not at all surprised you are feeling so anxious.
We are trying to sell atm as our area isn't nice, but it is at least safe and I am not scared, and I have been in a total state.
Is there any chance you could just move out - stay with relatives or something? Not ideal, but it must be so horrible there, it would at least be better than that.
Also, do you have an anti social behavior department in your area? They are better than the cops a lot of the time as they are there for this type of thing.

MrsCravendale · 29/04/2009 21:08

Hi nickytwotimes. Thanks for answering. As usual I felt really stupid reading back what I just posted but I am on my own at the moment and LO is asleep upstairs but there is a huge gang swarming about and although they're not doing anything at the moment, everyone has disappeared indoors and all the blinds are down.

Anyway, we couldn't really leave the house empty for any length of time and it is ok a lot of the time. It is just nights like this when there seems to be something "going down" u know? We actually do have an antisocial behaviour dept but its not really well publicised. I will go to the council website to see if there are any contact nos. The local cops are good during the day but at night it is the regional police so by the time they arrive, everyone has usually done a runner.

Thanks

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nickytwotimes · 29/04/2009 21:12

You are not stupid.
There are a couple of trouble makers round here, but they have been okay the last year or so. It is just so unsettling though.
It is not fair that normal people should feel scared by wankers like this. I used to be a real woolly minded liberal until I had to live next to tossers here and I do on accassion find myself going a bit DM! [shick]
I have become more sensitive to it since becoming a parent too. You want somewhere nice to bring up your child(ren) and that is perfectly normal.

nickytwotimes · 29/04/2009 21:12

not shick!

dittany · 29/04/2009 21:13

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MrsCravendale · 29/04/2009 21:22

Yeh - there is a neighbour who set up neighbourhood watch cos they witnessed some really bad antisocial behaviour and were victims too. Not much has come of it though. It seems pretty powerless. I guess it is still looked upon as vigilantism. They said the problem is we have moved into their territory and they just want us to know that but since most people round here are out all day and just drive in and out of the scheme then come home and shut the curtains, we don't really know each other very well and it's just the retired people or stay at home mums n dads (very few as everyone works to pay their massive mortgages but the rest of the estate is full of people during the day who are on the social so they all know each other and don't really seem too happy with us moving in on their turf).

Anyway, I guess this isnt really suited to the mental health topic but it is just that I am almost having a panic attack at being here on my own and it has all kicked off again but its not like I can call the cops n say "theres a gang wandering about not doing anything" so I came on here and posted in a panic.

By the way, they all seem to have moved on for now... Maybe they'll be back after dark.

Sorry... I know there are poster here who really need advice and I feel like I am just time wasting a bit.

Thanks for your help and support though...

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nickytwotimes · 29/04/2009 21:26

You are not time wasting.
It is horrible.
Rreally feel for you.

BlaDeBla · 30/04/2009 19:33

You poor poor thing. Is anyone at the council any help? Are there any neighbourhood meetings in your area?

We had yardie gangs hanging around outside our house for year after year, and it was grim. Outside, we could easily get drugs, guns, whores, slaves, stolen goods... you name it. It grinds you down, especially if you are stuck at home.

We were advised by the police to dial 999 if we became frightened, and say we had seen a knife. They said it was the only way they would do anything.

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