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I just cried in front of my son for over 30 mins and cant remember ever doing that

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hereidrawtheline · 29/04/2009 10:47

I am officially depressed at the moment. Not too seriously I am sure or too permanently but I am depressed. I am just so tired of marching to everyone else's tune and working endlessly. I feel so sad.

I could really do with some help right now, in a practical sense, I wish I had a Mum around to come and help out with the housework a bit and life in general. I just got my new dog and he is a huge blessing, I love him to bits and he is everything you could want from a puppy, but its such a lot of work. He isnt potty trained etc so I am doing all of that which is a lot more work than I expected it would be. DH is working all day then comes home around 6 and what we are doing right now is just working alongside each other to get basic survival accomplished so I miss him a lot.

DS's problems which are being looked into for SN are continuing and just making me so tired. I just cant get him to react in any normal way to things. He is attention seeking and OTT. Example today I had to run in the house while we were all out in the garden for something and the whole 2 mins I was gone I could hear him shrieking, I knew it wasnt serious. I went back and it was because the fucking hose was resting on top of his shoe and he was saying he was stuck. He is almost 3 and he wouldnt even bend down to pick the hose up off his shoe. I refused to do it but had to encourage and coax him through it. Then it happened again and I had to start all over. Then he took something out of DH's greenhouse he shouldnt have so I asked him to put it back, he said no and walked off. I said he had to come back and do it he then started in again about how he couldnt lift it, or push it in his wheelbarrow or anything. I made him do it by saying do it or go in time out.

My neighbours had a go at me because they apparently heard my new dog's tail thumping on the radiator - twice. He wasnt barking, no, nor howling, no they think they heard his tail thumping. We live in a semi bungalow. Then they started in because they found cat shit in their garden and think its from my cats. Well yes it could be, but it could also not be. Every house on our road has cats and mine only go out about 3 hours a day so mainly use a litter tray. I said I was very sorry I was still training the puppy as I only had him 4 days and would they like me to come round and collect the cat poo. She said no and then started back on about the tail thumping. I did clarify she reckons she heard it twice. I think this is madness.

My dog is pooing on the floor 50% of the time and outside 50% so we are getting there but all I am doing is getting shouted at by DS, cleaning up poo and other than that I am just lonely and crying.

I just dont understand I know this doesnt all sound terrible but I just cant stop crying. I think there are more things that are upsetting me but tbh they are all little things like the things I mentioned. Its nothing big. I know things arent that bad and reading this it sounds like I have a whiny toddler a working husband and a pooing dog but it just feels like such sadness. DS is relentless with his demands and the ridiculous nature of them just does my head in sometimes. I do all the right things, I make a laugh out of it, I joke around, I remain firm and encourage him to do things on his own, I play with him.

I think I have written this very badly and I dont think I have managed to actually convey what is wrong with me but its all I can think of to say while DS drones on and on in my ear. This morning I was trying to dress him so we could go out in the garden and play, I was trying to have fun and he was going limp and then holding himself down, not in a tantrum way, he just refuses to be helpful. I am just so tired. I just wanted to get him dressed so we could go out and kick a ball around and he wouldnt lift his leg up.

I havent explained it well. I'm sorry I am just very tired.

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Hassled · 29/04/2009 10:54

Poor you. It doesn't sound trivial or whiney at all - it sounds overwhelming. You say you are officially depressed - do you mean you have seen your GP and are having some form of treatment? I hope so.

I think the first thing to focus your energies on is getting some sort of a regular break from your DS. Half a day over the weekend? Just sometime where you can go off and do your own thing and not have to deal with the relentlessness of it all. It may sound like a faff to organise but it will preserve your sanity.

And the neighbour is a loon - do not waste any time fretting over her.

Lizzylou · 29/04/2009 10:57

Oh sweetheart
Have you been to the GP?
Sometimes all the small things just build up and everyhing seems bleak, doesn't it?
When will you hear about your DS's diagnosis re: SN?
Your neighbour sounds bonkers tbh, so please don't worry about that (tail wagging against radiator? Bonkers!).

hereidrawtheline · 29/04/2009 10:58

I just mean by officially that I really feel like crap. I already take prozac as a hangover from PND but I normally feel great.

I will have 2 hours without DS tomorrow while he is at preschool.

Ugh have to get up to get him a drink and I just want him to go away today so I can rest. I dont ever seem to rest.

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hereidrawtheline · 29/04/2009 11:01

We have been waiting to since October 08 for DS to be assessed. His appointment with CAHMS is 10 June so we still have ages to wait. We wont get any help or advice or support til after that so til then everything is down to us just being perfect ever failing parents.

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Hassled · 29/04/2009 11:02

You must make sure you spend those 2 hours doing something for yourself - don't go home and clear up dogshit - go swimming, go for a walk, go shopping (even if you're just window-shopping), sit in the garden and read the paper. Everything else can wait. It's not a break if it's just more of the same.

And I do think you need to go and talk to your GP - it could be that the PND Prozac isn't working for you anymore and they need to review the medication. You don't have to be feeling this low.

hereidrawtheline · 29/04/2009 11:13

DH has just reminded me via email I have forgotten to take my prozac for the last couple of days so that is surely why I feel so low. Even now though I am just fighting back tears non stop and I am so tired I just want to go to sleep and just sleep all day I can not bear the fact that DS is going to nap for probably 2 hours and then I will have to start working all over again. I just want to cry and sleep.

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