how to change the direction of your thoughts? advices and ideas please!!!!

[lucylue]

hi everyone,
today, i got quite upset for something which i wouldnt want to go about.
but all i can say is 'i know, i must stop thinking about it and move on to something else'.
but i find it hard?
why? what can i do? what am i doing wrong?
i feel like i fell to a hole and cant take myself out.
i am trying to look at the situation in different ways, the one my mind chosing is more upsetting way, when i generalize; i think i must get over it, i have many more things to do.

i must add it was a bad thing to happen and somebody else in my shoes might be more upset, angry and react more, but i want to be more mature, calm, get over it more easier.
am i wanting a lot? wanting too much from myself?
would prefer to be more relaxed, but not easy.
i guess i need to learn how to focus on something else more easier.
thanks in advance.

Well, it depends what the thing is, I suppose. Some things are easier to put behind you than others. Often it can take a long time before you are able to not think about it all the time.

Would talking about it in RL help? Does anyone know?

yes i tell in rl but i dont like to bore them.