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What do you do when it all feels totally pointless?

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ABitWrong · 04/04/2009 06:24

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LoveMyGirls · 04/04/2009 08:05

Write lists and put music on that cheers me up, my favourite songs to cheer me up at lastnight a dj saved my life and feeling good maybe you could try those to start with?

Maybe you could talk about why it feels pointless to you?

SoupDreggon · 04/04/2009 08:09

If it's something that comes in patches, ry to remember it isn't, that it's just a feeling and plod on. If it's all the time, seek help.

x

Celery · 04/04/2009 08:13

I stop and think that I realise my feelings are due to depression or hormones and sit and write stuff down like I learned to on my cognitive behaviour therapy course. Writing it all down and rethinking it in a positive way makes me realise that even if I am still feeling black, it is not the reality of the situation, just my perception, and by consciously changing my perception, by writing it all down, I usually feel better.

littlerach · 04/04/2009 09:39

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Agree with other posters, think of what it is that isn't pointless, IYSWIM.

ABitWrong · 04/04/2009 17:46

Thank you everybody. Was having a really bad few hours.

LR, doyou know who I am? Just say yes or no.

I think it is so hard to be prepared for feeling so bad, it always seems to take me by surprise.
It is not all the time, thank goodness.

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littlerach · 04/04/2009 18:05

Yes, think so.

AutumnMists · 04/04/2009 18:58

If it gets really bad I just concentrate on getting through minute by minute; every minute is an achievement and by the time I have managed say 30 mins that achievement gives me the strength to keep going and so on ...

Laughter is also fantastic 'medicine' - if you find somthing or someone to make you laugh or even just a small smile is a start.

I also find a 'feel good' film can help - Pretty Woman, Love Actually, anything with Colin Firth or Steven Seagal etc

Hope you feel better soon

ABitWrong · 05/04/2009 06:45

Even a minute is so hard to think about sometimes, I find it hard to breathe and get dizzy.
But thank you AM.

I have a friend who makes me laugh. I wish she lived closer.

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Confuzzeled · 05/04/2009 07:42

Hello ABitWrong, do you know why your feeling this way? I was just wondering if there is anything you can do to help your situation.

CBT does work. Write down how your feeling and get a perspective on things.

You sound like your getting a bit overwhelmed by it all. Is it sunny with you, can you take a walk in the park, buy a cheesy mag and switch your brain off for a while.

alicecrail · 05/04/2009 07:55

Abitwrong sometimes i feel overwhelmed by everything and all i want is to go to bed and not get up for at least a week, when i just want to cry for no good reason and it's not linked (that i know) to my hormones. Luckily my Dh does understand and tries to help me in any way he can. Having someone who understands and can remind you it is only temporary can help enormously. I also find a trashy book (Jilly cooper is particularly good ) and a soak in the bath can just switch your brain off which i think is often all i need.
I know people suggest exercise but speaking from my experience, when i feel bad i feel terribly weak and lethargic and exercise is not an option.

Obviously i don't know why you are feeling like this, but it is likely it is only temporary. I hope you have a brighter day today

Wank · 05/04/2009 09:26

make a little 'crisis box' for these moments, put anything comforting in there - a cuddly toy? pics of children/loved ones, a favourite dvd, bubble bath, chocolate, religious texts? maybe print off any messages to you from here that have helped in the past, simple reminders like 'this too shall pass' (sorry for the cheesiness of this but have clung to such fragile hope in the past ), something soft and reassuring like a scarf, book with favourite paintings/photos in, one or two sleeping pills if you have them?

you could also add a list, with telephone numbers that can be called at any time such as samaritans, your crisis team if you have one, and maybe a to-do list, things to do that might get you through the moment without taxing your already stretched-to-breaking-point brain: sort beads into colours, cry/scream into a cushion, water your plants, post on mumsnet, cuddle/feed a pet if you have one (poss not goldfish), curl up in a fluffy blanket, go outside if the sun is shining - maybe others will have better ideas to add?

ABitWrong · 05/04/2009 22:47

Oh, thank you for your lovely suggestions.

Confuzzled, i have a small pile of ishoos which I am not dealing with very well.

alicecrail, I am glad you have a supportive dh.
Thankfully, i can do exercise...have been running like a nutter. Well, a novice nutter.

Wank - heavens, what a name! - I love your crisis box idea. I wonder where I could possibly keep it where it would be undisturbed by dcs

Thank you all xx

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