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Mental health

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I have been recommended for help from Community Mental Health Service, by social services....

15 replies

TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 03/04/2009 14:22

My family has had a very trying number of years. I have posted under different names and had a lot of support on here.
I got social services involved because my DS's (11) behaviour was getting irratic, violent and disturbing,

They have been brilliant and so supportive, but in bringing the case to a close have said they feel I should have this referral as they think the effect on my mental health has been profound.

I am gutted.

And feel like it is all my fault because I am 'unstable'.

I am trying to be positive and keep things together but am feeling isolated and overwhelmed. Everytime I think I have had the final straw, life throws something else at me. Maybe it really is all my fault. I thought I had tried so hard.

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bristols · 03/04/2009 14:27

It sounds to me as though they just want to make sure you still have support once the case is closed. I can understand why you feel the way you do, but do try to be positive about it. It's not your fault.

You sound as though you have been through an awful lot and that is bound to take its toll on anyone. Make the most of the opportunity to talk things through. See it as some time just for you to talk about anything you want rather than trying to sort out all the other troubles.

It seems as though things are moving on in a good way. Good for you for getting through it all.

Iklboo · 03/04/2009 14:29

It sounds to me like they're letting you know you're not being forgotten about when the case is closed.
Try to be positive about getting through everything and well done you!

TigOeufFeet · 03/04/2009 14:30

Mitsubishi I have to dash off but wanted to point out - wouldn't you say that it's possible that your mental health has suffered because of your situation? Rather than your situation being caused by your mental health?

You've had so much to deal with it's no surprise that you need some support that's just for you, and you alone, outside of the family support.

Take care and lots of love x

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TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 03/04/2009 15:46

, just feels like it will never end.....but thanks

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ruthandpolly · 03/04/2009 16:26

i know that feeling. "never end" is something really far away - i find it helpful to look for little successes (or lack of failures!) on an hourly basis, and not to think any further ahead than that.

TooTicky · 03/04/2009 20:08

Oh god it is really really not your fault. None of it. You do wonders, you hold everything together.
DO NOT be hard on yourself please [stern]

They are concerned for you because you have been through, and are going through, so much.
How you feel about their concern is another matter.
There is no blame though.

MollyRogerslikeanEasterabbit · 03/04/2009 20:17

Right you, come and let me lecture you

we all have mental health. Good and bad!
You have had more chucked at you in the short time I have 'known' you, than most people experience in a decade. None of which is your 'fault'. Anyone would struggle to deal with just one or two of the issues you have had to deal with.
Accept the help, accept any help offered and know that sooner or later, you will be back on top. You have such an irrepressible spirit and more joie de vivre than anyone else I've ever (virtually) met.

And I'm going to hug you, no matter what MN's opinion of hugging is...{{{{{HHHHUUUUGGGG}}}}}}}

And know that I am here whenever you want me. x

MollyRogerslikeanEasterabbit · 03/04/2009 20:18

oh... festive smiley didn't work.

That's better|

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TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 03/04/2009 21:14

Thank-you...I keep trying to tell my self things like that, but then wonder if I have somehow made life difficult for myself.

Maybe just go with it. I definately think I need something.

Thanks anyway.....and for the hugs..

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TooTicky · 03/04/2009 21:26

No, you haven't. Sometimes shit just happens.
{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

SuperBunny · 05/04/2009 04:58

{{{hug}}}

cheapskatemum · 06/04/2009 22:17

I was referred to CMHS due to my son's behaviour & the effect it was having on the family. He was probably about 11 at the time too (he has ASD, SLD and has since been diagnosed with bi polar mood disorder). It was one of the best things that has ever happened to me. My counsellor was BRILLIANT, she put so many things into perspective with me and I was able to see a productive way forward. That hour a week was total ME time. Who was it who said that the only things we regret are the things we never did?

My advice? Give it a go.

SuperBunny · 07/04/2009 14:17

How are you?

No idea why there is a link to nothing in my previous post - I swear I didn't put that there.

SuperBunny · 07/04/2009 14:17

And another one

mooseloose · 08/04/2009 08:08

I have counselling, and it's really making a difference to my happiness and mood. I have been upset and shaky a lot this week, had counselling this week and came out feeling much lighter with things more in perspective, with coping strategies to reduce my worries. You will feel better for going - it will help. You will hear things that will make sense of things. But come home and write it down so you dont forget what you need to do, and the strategies.

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