I feel I don't have anything to look forward to

[christiana]

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This may not make you feel any better but your day does not sound dissimilar to many posters on MN I'm sure!

Sounds like you need some time for you before this baby comes. Book something in this weekend, a facial, a pedicure, a shopping trip (if clothes don't float your boat how about books, hobby stuff etc)

OR if you just want some time to yourself, get dh to take dd out for the day/weekend so you can flop about at your leisure.

all things pass.

tell your hv/midwife how you feel and get some counselling before the baby is born.

you need to actively enhance your mental health like you would start eating healthily for your physical health then you need to 'think' healthily for your mental health.

first of all you need to do things that back you feel good. watch feel good films, go out in the sunshine.

tell you r husband to get some magnesiunm supplements for his migraine. its very good.

back to you. What do you need? what can we
do for you?

Are you having a boy or a girl?

Okay, I can definitely see how you feel short of blessings to count.

I will say that as the mother of a three year old without even really the prospect of another child on the horizon you will understand how I envy you whilst at the same time sympathising with your rubbish situation. I would also feel extremely nervous about a new baby, much as I dream of it.

How do you get a grip on money so you're not just running through savings? There don't have to be holidays in the offing but you need to know it's not a bottomless pit.

How do you climb off the treadmill of it being you who has to keep it all together? You're in a partnership, how can you make that work (the two of you)?

I could offer also some trite stuff about how at least your dp isn't in a wheelchair (my dh is) but (a) I don't think that will help - how can you compare a situation you have never been to one you are and (b) a dh who will do nothing is analogous to one in a wheelchair anyway.

Take a deep breath. You are in a bad place. Keep posting.

Sorry to hear how you're feeling christiana, like mrsmaidamess says I think we all go through these times.

Is your dd at pre-school or nursery? Is it something you would consider so that you could have a bit of me time before baby comes?

We're going through financial difficulties ourselves, it just seems hopeless when you're living hand to mouth. But sometimes just going for a walk when the sun is shining can lift your mood.

I've been lurking on your oil cleansing thread so your great skin is another blessing xx

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Have you looked into ways of getting help with your rent? If your dh is on a low wage you should be able to get something.

Do you rent privately? If so there is now something called LHA, which is a benefit for private tenants. You should be able to find out more on your local councils website

here

Sorry you're having such a rough time.

It's obvious you're doing a great job, holding things together, that you're a tough cookie keeping on, and your family are very lucky to have you.

Sorry, I can't see if it's the rough time, or the depression that's really getting you. If it's depression, please talk to your GP - antenatal depression does happen. The health services are great if you need them - the health visitor came every week for months to check up on me and was a great safety net. But please talk to the GP now, as if it's antenatal depression they should know asap. (Mine wasn't recognised and spiralled out of control)

Have you tried the citizens advice bureau? Good source of advice on possible benefits, etc.

There are some great comments about exercise, healthy diet, sunshine, plus I find comedy and music are great too. And please get plenty of sleep.

Sorry, gotta crash.