Sorry I disappeared. Had to go and calm down from a panic attack
Right I will try and type out the full story. Bear with me.
Been friends for about 10 years. Her eldest son is 6 months younger than my eldest son. We met through a locel baby group. She has always been a bit 'on and off' if you get me. But either way, I have always been there for her. Helped her through so much. Looked after her kids even on occasions when I suspected she was taking the piss a bit. When she had an affair and split up with her DH, I was there for her. Even covered for her. Stupid I know but hey ho. Her and her H end up getting back together and I am the last to know even though I was still trying to help her sort herself out.
Fast forward to christmas. Me and her were supposed to be going out on a pamper day together. She had a voucher for her birthday and really wanted me to go with her. Anyway, one day she didnt turn up at school, I was worried and text her loads. No reply til the evening. She said her DH was fetching the kids from school to give her a break. The next morning I found out she had lied and taken her mum on this pamper day. I was a bit upset, but at the end of the day it was her voucher, but she kept asking me when I could go and I told her just to book it and let me know when it was and I would go, it easier for me to work around her than vice versa.
Then she kept dropping hints at needing someone to look after her youngest dc when she went to work on a thursday. I didn't 'bite' and told her she should ask nursery if she can change her days for him. That seemed to be the ultimate turning point. She hardly spoke to me really from then on, even though I would still call round for her every morning on the way to school.
Another couple of weeks and we were supposed to be going out. I find shes been making plans to go out with a bunch of other mums on that night instead. I wasn't invited. I was quite upset about this as we had planned going out for weeks!
Then one day, she didn't turn up to take my ds1 to a club she always took him to with her son (my DH always fetched them and its been this way for 2 years!) I text and asked her why she hadn't called round and she replied 'you didn't ask' a bit odd seeing as we have had the same arrangement for 2 years. In the end I just text back 'oh ok' I MSNd her and text her a few days after that but got no reply, so I emailed her to say that I had made other arrangements for ds1 to be collected/dropped off so that there wouldn't be any misunderstandings from now on. Her ds doesn't like going to this club now anyway, so figured that he will eventually be leaving anyway so would have to make own arrangements sooner rather than later. She emailed me back asking why I was being 'like that' I just said that it would be better as then there would be no more misunderstandings but that I would see her soon.
So the next week on 'that day' I saw her at school after I had picked my kids up. My ds1 said she was sticking her finger up at me and pulling a face behind my back. Really, not understanding what it was I was supposed to have done, I turned round to ask. She stormed over and started shouting at me. Said I was being funny with her. I told her that I wasn't being funny, but that I was a bit upset that I thought we were going out together and to find out she made other plans and I wasn't invited had upset me. But I said that it didn't matter and to leave it. I carried on walking home. I got outside the school and heard her yelling at me and turned round to see her chasing after me. I can't remember what she was yelling, all I can remember is that I couldn't get a word in edgeways. Her mum was yelling that she would slap me (this the same woman who said I was the best friend her daughter had ever had and she was always telling her that I was!!!) When I finally got a word in, I said that I thought we were really good friends, and that I have done so much for her, even covered for her when she went off with another bloke (common knowledge so not like I was saying anything that nobody knew about...I could have done, I know a lot about her she wouldn't want anyone to know but I am just not like that) and that was it. She flew at me and she was punching me over and over. I just remember hearing my kids screaming. Apparently then someone tried to pull her off me as I was going down, and she hit them, then ran off home. This was on the tuesday. The police came to the hospital. Then they came to my house on wednesday to take a statement and take photographs. My face was all swollen ont he left side and I couldn't even see out of my left eye it was so swollen and bruised. I had a headache for a week afterwards. She was arrested on the Thursday morning. It was the thursday afternoon I saw her at school after she had been released with a caution and told she should stay away from the school.
It was classed as the lowest level of assault as there was no open wounds/lasting scarring etc.
As it didn't happen in the school grounds, the headteacher said that he couldn't do anything, but has said that if she ever says anything to me within the grounds to go straight to him.
She was a playground assistant at the school but quit as soon as the head rang her.
She has apologised to the other person she hit and tried to apologise to others. But not me.
She was always moaning about her mum to me. They didn't get on. She's never done anything like this before, but when her mum is with her, they are very verbal. Her mum was even trying to hit the person who was pulling her off me, rather than tell her to stop it!
I think thats it. I hope. I am sorry if its long winded. Better go and wash my face now.