are these feelings normal post natally?

[mad4mybaby]

i have 2 ds's. ds1 is 2.8 and after he was born i had severe pnd and anxiety. Was on Ad's until he was 18 months old. ds2 is 15 weeks and went on Ad's and still on now 20 mg.My depression is ok, and i feel pretty okish.Not 100% but under my circumstances ok. What i want to know is that when ds2 is in bed i feel on edge for him waking up. When i hear a noise on the intercom i jump up and wait by it to see if hes crying. I feel very sick when this is happening and very on edge/anxious.

Just wondering if this is normal or not? I was the same with ds1 and it did stop but cant remember when. I dont want to feel like this as i have enough going on without me freaking out. Ive been on 20mgs of citralopram for about 10ish weeks

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a lot of women may well suffer from heightened anxiety after a birth, which does sort of make it normal. but the feelings of being on edge, feeling sick are not pleasant for you, and could well be addressed with different meds/ different dosage and some relaxation techniques.

20 mg is quite a low, starter dose, i think?

definitely go back to docs

Maybe not quite so extreme, but I did sleep very twitchily when dd was wee, and feel a bit sickened about the idea of having to get up again. Much of this is down to sleep deprivation, so to me you sound a bit like you're having a bit more of an extreme/intense version of something normal, if that makes sense.

id love to do some relaxation but just dont get the time. dh either works away or long hours and obv boys are both young. i dont have anyone that can have them easily. When ds2 has had all his 3 lots of jabs i will put them in the creche so i can go to the gym or something but until then (4 weeks) relaxation is reading before i go to sleep!

Hello. Sorry to hear you have had a tough time. Yes, if my experience is anything to go by then those feelings are normal - I have 1 dd 2.3 and a noise on the monitor always used to set my heart racing like a shot of adrenaline - I still get it a bit even now when she is ill and I hate it but can't seem to stop it.

Could your dh/anyone else help with listening out so that you can totally relax? I find it helped to go in another room so you cannot hear what is going on and do something to block out the sound and switch off (tv, music etc) but safe in the knowledge that someone is listening out and will tell you if anything is wrong or when he needs feeding. During the night, wear earplugs and same thing - let other person tell you when you are needed.

Hi, mad, yes, I felt like that after DS1 who was a very screamy baby, cried a lot, at the drop of a hat, and slept very little.
I used to jump at the least tiny noise, because I was constantly on edge "waiting" or rahter dreading him starting to scream again.
Strangely enough I did not feel like that with DS2 and 3, but they were much more relaxed.
It helped me to have DS1 sleep out of ear shot ie not in our room, I slept with ear plugs and DH would wake me if he piped up for food (BFing). At times he would go back to sleep again with his dummy if DH got there in time before he went into full blown hysterics.
Sorry you are having a rough time. Hopefully you and you baby will settle down a bit soon.
HTH.