Anyone else feel like their on a roller coaster and cant get off !

[fakeblondie]

OMG my life is just like this at the mo.

There just isn`t enough hours in the day - days in the week ect.

I know we all have times like this , but my gp says i`ve reached Burn Out so i know its gone too far now.
Would love to chat to other mums who really do have too many balls in the air right now.
Need realistic tips .
My roller coaster needs some brakes big time.

Im now unable to think rationally, eerything overwhelms me , even the smallest of tasks seems daunting , i forget things , the children arent where they should be when they should be , i am in a mess.
Its frustrating because for all my life i have been able to juggle so well.
Now its nor only affecting my mental health but am on 2 lots of blood pressure tabs too .
Its affecting my family beacuse i just cant relax now - i would love to be able to read a bedtime story to my ds and not still be on this roller coaser . I just cant seem to slow down or relax at all at the moment. .

Everyone thinks im so capable and so bubbly , but really im just a good actor at the mo .
At home im just in tears all the time trying to plan the next day . people dont believe me when i say i dont know what im doing tomorrow , because i honestly dont - i darent look that far .
xx

. I have felt like this too in the past (esp when DC were smaller). I know the feeling of literally not knowing which way to turn and what to do next. .

Now I am calmer. I try to focus on one thing at a time (I seem to spend all day saying 'I can only do one thing at a time' LOL). I try hard not to think about things that are in the past (feeling guilty) or things that are in the future (worrying). I just do 1 thing, then another thing.

I have found Flylady immensly helpful in building routines and helping me focus on what is important. The whole Flylady ethos is to do 1 thing at a time (take baby steps) and not get caught up in how something is done, or how well, just to do it. (Flylady doesn't suit everyone though, I know).

I also try to have a bit of peace everyday (usually have 1/2 hr in the bath when dc are in bed) to clear my head.

I hope some of this is helpful.

Scattyspice thanks for your reply-whats Flylady then ?

Hi. Sorry i was at work so couldn't reply sooner.

If you look in Goodhouskeeping and find the thread with Fly in the title (sorry, can't link). Click on the link for todays Flylady mission and click on the Flylady home page for an introduction. Basically its about keeping ontop of housework etc without having to 'spring clean' etc. You add a babystep everyday (like wash up and shine your sink, or do a load of laundry) until you have established routines that become automatic. There are reminders to plan meals, shopping list, run errands etc.

We MN Flyladys have a thread each day linking to the website and we try to post each day to support each other.

Come and join us, we have all felt like you do LOL. .

I can completely realte to what you are saying and have been there so many times and the rest of the i'm just teetering on the edge of it. I find i can sit and while away the time that DD2 is in bed and then mourn the loss of another day wasted and nothing gets done.
i find that lists help - i tried fly lady but kept falling behind but lists have helped me to break things up into manageable goals - including things you already have done to tick off straight away!
Don't see anything as a whole job - like clean the house - try-
Tidy up breakfast table
Put dishes in dishwasher
Wipe down surfaces
Sweep floor
Tidy DC bedroom
Tidy own bedroom
Hoover and dust upstairs
Hoover and dust downstairs
Clean bathroom
Clean kitchen
Change sheets
etc.
Decide on a day or days to do each chores then tick them off as you go.
Before you go to bed lay the breakfast, make the pack lunches and get clothes ready for next day
When DC come home from school check bags etc and deal with notes etc straight away and put them back in the bag
Concentrate on what you are doing and not on what you aren't doing and give yourself a time limit for each job and then reward yourself with a cup of tea or MN or whatever when you're done.
Plan activties to do with your DC - ie reading to them at bedtime, set a time stick to it and think about only that when you're doing it.
have a morning and bedtime routine for the DC so you know where you are.
plan meals and write down shopping list so you're notin a panic for feeding time.
it seems a lot and I don't always stick to it all the time but it really helps when I do.
Also give yourself a break - if you're tired let yourself have a long rest, day off early night etc. till you feel up to it and above all don't feel guilty and pressure yourself to achive more - imagine you are a friend of yourself and treat yourself like you would your friend.
HTH - now I'm off to try nad follow my own advice sigh

clutteredup I think that's wonderful advice

now if I could only follow it too

1st baby step: turn away from the computer...