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Can't go on like this.......

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sickfedup · 15/02/2009 14:58

Hey, well this is gonna be long....pls bear with me

Well I have a dd,7 and my depression/severe ocd pretty much started just before I had her

So was put on citalopram after having her and went to psychiatrist for a while, when my dd was about 9 weeks old, had suspicions my partner was cheating, so threw him out

Then when my dd was a year old I moved house to be near my parents etc, was still on antid's etc

This is when I met my current partner of 6.3 years and we got together and he is 4 years younger than me(now 24 I am 28) I had two miscarriages to him when my dd was approx 2 yrs ol, 2 and a half....then we had a son who will be 2 in a couple weeks, then last jan had another miscarriage

My son has a genetic disorder involving severe epilepsy, hypotonia(low muscle tone) and hypermobile joints (very flexible) brain ddamage and development delay...so bn a rough ride, he cannot walk etc altho startin to talk now...anyway i am bk on antid's n diazepam to help me deal with my ds's probs

When I was preg with my ds I found my partner had bn taking cocaine, and it was in my house, I went crazy, but he promised never to do it again etc etc, an cos I was pregnant I thought "oh everythin will be ok", found it good few times since, and just after my ds was born, so threw him out, hasnt lived with us for more than a year

But he swore he wasnt doing it anymore.....and things were starting t get bk on track, was gonna ask him to move bk in as I had never seen any more proof he was doing it again...we were talking only 2 weeks ago about trying for a baby in the summer as we went to see geneticist and were told that ds's condition was a one off so we were over the moon, but also very sad for our little man.... but anyway last weekend he had came in from a night out(and I do NOT eever let him stay if he is out for a drink bcos the fear of cocaine was always there) but he had let himself in and was lying on the couch when I took dd downstairs in the morning

When he went out I put my hand dwn couch (as I used to do) and found an empty cocaine bag
I am devastated and he keeps saying he will get help etc but said it before

My life is hard enough , and recently I have bn just taking my diazepam each day "just in case" even tho I prob shouldn't be

Feel like I am slippin into depression again FAST I am so fuckn fed up of all the shit

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Coldtits · 15/02/2009 15:13

Your life is shit. It's nothing you are doing wrong, it's because your 'partner' is a drug addict. You will slip into depression unless you do something to alleviate the stress in your life, and a major source of that stress seems to be the man who lives with you. Write him off. He cannot be an adult for you, he is an addicts and can't even look after himself properly, never mind anyone else. You have to concentrate on you and the children.

You cannot protect them from him if you don't also protect yourself from him. And once you are over the devastation that is losing a partner, your life will be much happier.

sickfedup · 15/02/2009 15:21

Hi again coldtits, funny name btw

Yeah major source is him, yr right, not living with me, wanted to have "romantic night" last night, told him no... I just dunno hw to get over him , bn longest relationship ever and prob the worst

It is soooooooo frustrating cos I knw he has it in him to be a good man, he can be a good partner and great dad, my dd has called him "dad" since she was little, just dunno hw to get over this

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