"I've been questionning my own mortality"

[wrinklytum]

DP said this in the ambulance last night.

He also said recently that he would be better off dead.

He was diagnosed with a chronic illness over a year ago which has left him with bouts of chronic pain and has had several hospial admissions.

I don't know if I am reading too much into it or if I am worrying overtly.

I am not mh trained,but these statements are beginning to worry me a little.

I don't knoW if it as perfectly normal reaction to his illnesS (he can't work and has been left quite debilitated).

I am trying to get him referred to a chronic pain clinic.

I guess I am just a little worried.I think I would probably express such things at times if I had been through what he had been through,but at what point should I get concerned?

Does that make sense?TIA

try calling NHS Direct/24 (different from England/Scotland) and ask to speak to someone from 'Breathing Space'- it's a new free counselling service and is open 24 hours a day.

you or he can talk to them and they don't need to take your name/details etc.

you can talk to them about anything and they will listen and offer advise.

Don't know what to say to help. Sounds like you should be concerned that he feels like that (you obviously are) even if he doesn;t plan to act on it. Are there any online self hekp groups for his condition?

Thanks.

Blinks,very useful will try that.

RS he has looked at self help groups but said "It's like everyone is trying to outdo each other with the severity of their symptoms" and one of the tfirst threads he read was about someone whose mum had died with the same condition so he didn't find it particularly uplifting

Hopeful bump in case any MH professionals online.

Oh. No experience of anything like this, just don't want you to think no-one is listening. I don't suppose there are online groups for relatives (I think there are for some conditions; I've heard of 'partners of diabetics') Or could you look at the groups' info and filter out any helpful advice?