sporadic dips in confidence

[raramum]

Every now and again (about once a month) I will have a huge dip in confidence re something relatively minor that I've completely blown out of proportion. It will usually take me about 24 hours to get over this thing and eventually I will laugh and move on. Often it is something like a worry about how my baby is getting on compared to others or how I am getting on compared to other mums. i feel a lot of pressure internally to be a good mum and feel quite self concious. Anyway these dips are pretty upsetting but all the rest of the time my mood is good and I am quite an active mum with a lot of other mum friends to hang out with.

Anyway my query is do you think I need meds for this? I attend a counsellor as I have a poor relationship with my family own parents which I think has affected the way I am as a mum and I want to sort out my insecurities as much as I can. I just am wondering whether counselling is enough? My baby is pretty happy and getting on great overall. However I feel guilty that these mood swings may be affecting him (even though I try to hide them as much as possible and just get on with things)

Advice appreciated!!!

Just a thought but do these occur at roughly the same time every month? If so could be hormonal? Might be worth keeping a record to see.

Thanks good idea. Also might be worth doing that to see if any improvement I suppose

I get something similar to this once a month. I have very little confidence anyway but around my period I lack any confidence and become very self critical, self harm and am quite frankly a nightmare to live with and a danger to myself.

I agree about keeping a diary and maybe taking it to the doctor, or jotting down a few notes from it to take to the doctor.

I can remember a few years a go wanting to come off my meds as I am fine for the rest of the months but then nosedive spectacularly for a day or so.

I get so low and self destructive that I have decided with my doctor it is for the best to stay on meds,

Thanks Twinset. At the moment I am feeling a bit wpied from these dips too. It takes so much out of me I feel exhausted afterwards. Am thinking I would love a break from my own head for a while. do you find the meds imporve things a lot?

Yes I still get the dips in mood and confidence but in now way do they compare to what I am like when on no medication.

I do hate being on medication, it makes me a little drowsy and I am noy quite myself. In lots of ways I have grown able to use my madness in positive ways and that has now gone. But I was in extreme cases becoming suicidal so needed to be in medication even if there is a small pay off.

If it is once a month and only 24 hours,I don't think that you should take medication. Can it be related to your periods?
I feel exactly the same but much more often, approximately 3/7. Maybe I need medication

have you tried taking VITAMIN B6? for some girls it helps, some take johns wort(dont with prescription meds ).i personally couldn't function without my fluxotine, but i do wish i didnt have to take it.fingers crossed for you x

To be honest my bad moods are usually triggered by meeting my mother...she's a bit on the passive aggressive side so kind of mean in an underhand way IYKWIM. Likes to give sly put downs.