Anorexia - Has it stopped me being able to have kids?

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As a teenager i suffered from Anorexia Nervosa. I never talk about it much because it was the worst time period i have ever experienced.

DP and i have been trying for a baby for about 8months. Only last week we confronted each other that we actually were trying for a baby, before that i think i just wanted to make out we weren't so it didn't bother me as much that i wasn't falling pregnant.

He briefly knows about my ED as i still have the scarrs to prove it but i don't think he knows that this could of damaged my fertility.

I've looked on a number of websites that have confirmed my worries and i think i am coming to terms with the fact i have deprived myself from motherhood.

I do not know how to break it to dp, i feel like i am not only a failure to myself but also to him.

Any suggestions would help.

OK. I'm not an expert, but a couple of questions spring to mind.

Firstly. How old are you?

Secondly. Have you been having regular periods?

I would say you definitely need to see your GP, and get a referral if necessary before classing yourself as a failure.

Sorry to hear you're worrying about this.

I am 24 and i do miss the odd period but they are quite regular for me.
Thanks for having time to read my problems.

Is your weight stable now? Is it a healthy weight (BMI)?

I really think you should make an appointment with a GP and let him/her refer you to a gynaecologist if necessary.

Don't assume that you have damaged your fertility until you get some answers.

From what I can see, a large majority of women with AN regain fertility once successfully treated.

I'm a completely unqualified muppet, but would agree with Bauble about seeing the doctor. Also - with some contraceptives like Depo it can take a while for fertility to return - so there could be a simple explanation.

How much do you weigh now? I know someone who had anorexia and she managed to put on enough weight to conceive even in her late thirties/early forties and managed to have two children. She's back now to being too skinny but her kids are just fine . And eat normally.

If you are concerned I would go to see your GP and ask for a referral to the gynae. I imagine the effects of anorexia on fertility vary from person to person so you'll need individual advice.

My dd has crohns dis and when diagnosed was dangerously below weight andbecame very very ill.Her periods stopped for some months and have now resumed.From everything I've read and from her specialists no one has inferred long termdamage to fertility now she is better,having periods etc.
Please don't worry and feel to blame for anything,get advice from gp if you want to find out more.

I agree that i should seek proffessional advise.

I am not underweight, i haven't any scales in the house to know my weight and i don't really want to estimate.