Am feeling quite depressed, tearful, stressed. Don't want to be bothered with anything?

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I don't know what's wrong with me lately. I can't actually pinpoint anything specific that is making me feel so down. I know I have been very stressed lately and it seems that everything is too much. I have very low self esteem and no confidence in myself whatsoever. I have always been this way. Examples are: everything is a hassle even putting up the tree, shopping, in a panic because I haven't all my shopping done, v stressed with 2 year old going through terrible twos, not wanting to go to works dinner because I don't suit anything. Nothing fits. Yesterday spent two hours looking for outfit couldn't find a thing and it's all going back today. Have decided now I don't want to go. Have realised looking at the purchases I made that it's either a dull colour and baggy. Anything to cover up. I have been neglecting exercise lately as I can't be bothered and used to be quite fit and toned now i'm not and have got a bit flabby (even though an 8/10). What is WRONG WITH ME. I have a husband and 2 lovely daughters but is it Christmas and too much pressure that just gets me down. How can this be.

Are you getting enough sleep? could you need a thyroid check?having an underactive thyroid can make you feel like this-be nice to yourself.P.s. I haven`t done any shopping yet either!

Go and tell your GP this. It could be a number of things - from needing a holiday to thyroid problems or depression.

FWIW - I feel the same and have seen my lovely GP today.

My 2 year old has had me up every night for the past 3 weeks so no I am not getting enough sleep. When I wake in the morning I just want to crawl back under the covers. Last night I got just about 5 1/2 hours. Not enough. And I feel a bit run down. She is up about once but usually goes down right away but I am then wide awake and can't get myself back over. Can lack of sleep make you depressed? I am letting things get on top of me. I think once Christmas is here and I get a bit of time off I will chill a bit but right now everything feels too much effort.

If you have done a lot of bfing could be anaemic,do you look pale?
Have an early night at same time as los if you need it.
re confidence if your dh is supportive ask him to list the things he thinks you're good atand the things he loves about you.Being a parent isn't given the status it should have and it doesn't help one's confidence to feel your just looking after everyone else and your own personality can get swamped.

this sounds exactly like me! i felt this way since my ds was born enarly 7 years ago now and only recently have i accpeted that i may just have depression, i went along to the gp who said it very much sounded liek it, i have been prescribed a course of counselling and citalopram anti depressants as in her opinion they work better when combined. you may not be depressed but i would def recommend speaking to your gp or evne health visitor.

Having very low self confidence and feeling hopeless are common symptoms of depression.
Symptoms of clinical depression include wakingvery early in the morning and weight loss or change.
Agree see what your gp thinks and hope feel better soon

I could have written your post except I had an 11mo old ds.
I saw my GP this morning and have been diagnosed with depression - I've been given ADs and told to see a counsellor.

Go see your GP.

hi bouncing tinsel so glad you have bee to see the gp .what ad's did they give you ?

I was on ADs after my DD2 was born 2 years ago. Was on them 6 months and when started to feel much better slowly came off them. My family has a history of depression. My mother has had it for over 20 years. I am inclined to get down time and again but I do bounce back. I try and avoid ADs as do not want to become dependent and have coped so far. Am feeling slightly more cheerful ATM am glad to say and actually went for a 4 mile run Monday night in the freezing cold. It was actually quite liberating. Am going to try and get back to the exercise to get my confidence back a bit and I know I feel better when I do. 2 year old is still waking me up every night (aahh) and am finding it very hard to get back over to sleep so this isn't helping feeling knackered when have to get up for work but hopefully Christmas break will revive me. My mum actually went and got me a top instead of the ones I bought myself for my works party tomorrow night and it really surprises me how much this cheered me up. Maybe one less worry off my mind.

Anyone who feels hopeless and has lost interest in things that usually they love to do is most certainly going through depression.
Its not nice and needs dealing with a.s.a.p
I have had PND twice.
Get straight to the doctors have bloods done,full MOT .....I was anaemic,so that contributed to my depression.
Dont be ashamed to ask for anti depressants....they are worth it in the long run,to feel normal again.
If youre dead against anti depressants, St Johns Wort are ideal.
And excersize DEFINITELY easies depression.
It might be the last thing on your mind,but try and get outdoors,even for just a walk.

Women can be anaemic without knowing after pregnancy and bfing~or even if not anaemic can be low in iron causing tirednessetc.
Re stress maybe write down your commitments and worries and see which can be reduced or talked thru.
The worst stressors are usually things we can't control or don't feel good about.
One quite random thing that helped me once when I was getting overwhelmed was doing a new thing e
very day that I would usually say no to !Take care.

I have actually just came on here to start a thread almost exactly the same as yours.
For the past few weeks i have felt like everything is a struggle. i am married with 3 kids, 6, 3, and 16 months and up until the past month or so everything has been fine. But lately i just can't get out of bed in the mornings no matter wot time i go to bed at i am always tired. I usually love Christmas but this year i really can't be bothered with it at all doesn't help that we are really skint and i feel bad cos i know the kids are hardly getting anything for Xmas. Everything is just an effort i would gladly just sit on the couch all day and do nothing not even watch tv just nothing. The house is constantly a tip unless dh tidies up cos i just can't seem to find the time or energy to do it. I feel like i just get in from dropping tham at school and nursery and then its time to go back to nursery for the middle one and then back home give them their dinner and then back out at 3 for the oldest one. Then it seems to just be a countdown till bedtime and then start it all over again the next day. At the weekends i don't want to do anything i just want to stay in the house all day with my pj's on.
This isn't normal is it?

Hi Ilovebabies,

If its not like you 'normally' then its not nomral, some people are more inclined this way and it would be normal for them. The ebst thing you can do is seek some couselling to help realsie what the issues are.
i saw an independatn counsellor for 6 weeks beofre goign to my gp for anti depressants as i wanted to see if i could help myself first and while the counsellor helped a lot he was the one who suggested we combine the therapys. I have been taking citalopram for almost a week and already thinsg feel a bit clearer, althoguh i am not sure if i have unrealsitic expectations of it or not. as i feel that one day i am goignt o wake up and eb full of energy and back to my old self, but i do know realsitically this isn;t goign to happen.