Need opinions on something please...friend and possible PND

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This is a name change that I have used before, don't want anyone in RL to recognise this scenario.
Mum from school gets pregnant with 3rd child and constantly tells everyone that she doesn't want it, wished she had never got pregnant and so on. Said things to me like, what do you do in hospital after c section, sit there all depressed?
Went to visit her after baby born, said she was finding it difficult as she couldn't get up after her c section to 'belt' her other 2 like she normally does.
Saw her today and she said the baby is colicky and not sleeping. She said she fucking hates it(life with the baby, not the actual baby) and its doing her head in. I casually offered to have the baby if she felt she was struggling and mentioned that she should maybe tell the doctor how she was feeling and asked could it be PND. She said had been on Anti-D's before and didn't think it was that.
What should I do? Probably nothing, but its hard to sit back and see/hear all this.

It is a very difficult situ to be in. I think all you can really do for now is to be a friend and be there for her. It's hard not to interfere or appear to judge without being seen as nosey etc. Does she hav a partner? Could you talk to them?

I do know her dh too- but don't know about talking to him...hmm.

It can be very difficult to approach the subject, and you can't really go to the GP or speak to her MW on her behalf. Is she normally so agressive? From what you have described she sounds it - or have I misunderstood? It's been a very long time since I heard anyone talking about 'belting' their kids.... To be honest it does sound like PND (I've had it) - and it can manifest itself in many ways - you don't need to be 'depressed' - not coping and not bonding can be warning signs. Is the baby and other kids OK??

Keep with her and support her as much as you can. Good luck babe. xx