Is this ante natal depression and what can I do?

[ackleroyd]

I'm pregnant with the baby due in a couple of months. A few months ago I also became a lone parent to our children.
I think I'm depressed; I wake crying from my sleep during the night and things feel very bleak. I've also had suicidal thoughts which today have been overwhelming.
I wonder if it is in fact a reaction to my current circumstances or "real" depression (this may be a stupid question, sorry).
I have some family support, but I cannot lean on them much as they are so busy.
I've confided in my husband and told him that I cannot cope, but either he doesn't believe me or is disinterested. Since he left a few months ago he refuses to help at all with the children and cancels 90% visits etc at the last minute. If I complain he ignores us for days/weeks. I think this has contributed to my feelings of bleakness, frustration and helplessness.
I'm just not sure what to do.

Speak to your midwife or your GP.
Whether it's ante-natal depression or clinical depression induced by circumstances, you sound like you need someone to talk it through with.

I'm so sorry to hear this - you sound like you've had an unbelievably tough time. I'm afraid I don't have any 'proper' advice other than please see your GP - they will be able to help. Didn't want to leave your post unanswered, hopefully someone else wiser than I will be along soon.(((hugs)))

Bumping for you

I think if you are having suicidal thoughts it doesn't matter whether it is a reaction or depression, you need some help.

I think what you are going through is normal in a regular break up, but to be pregnant on top of that.........

Plase go to Gp. they will be able to help and put you in touch with other people who can help and support. Don't be afraid to take AD's. I took them when pg and have gorgeous normal dd (2)

One thing you might need to know. When I was pregnant I had overwhelming anxiety and depression. it was due to the biochemical changes in the brain when pregnant, and went when dd was born.

I think perhaps you need to lean on your family a little bit more. if they knew how you were feeling, I am sure they would find time to help...