PND in 1st pregnancy now 'high Risk' in this pregnancy?

[Rubysmom08]

Hello ladies

I suffered from a type of anxiety not really PND after the birth of my dd1 in jan this year.

There was many catalysts including the detah of my father (51), several miscarriages and a very controlling and overbearing MIL. I sought help and I am still seeing a therapist who is helping me come to terms with the detah of my father who was an alcholic (I was his main carer) as well as other issues relating to loss.

Anyway I was on Citolpram for 2 months as I stopped taking them due to me being pregant again. In myself I am nearly 100% and there has never been any question of the level od care I have given my dd1, I am a model parent, however when I wen for a scan this week they told me I was 'high risk' because of my PND and it has taken me into panic overload.

Obviously there are tonnes of women who have gone onto have further children after suffering with PND first time round, so what does this mean as the midwife was very dismissive, busy and rished us out..

I dont think that you should worry about this. I dont think that this is a comment on your parenting or the care you gave your DD.
There is an increased awareness of the needs of women with mental health problems in the postnatal period, and a lot of trusts have put systems in place to try and make sure that if mental illness does develop that womens (and babies) needs arent neglected.

It will be meant to be supprtive, in the event that you have similar problems next time, so that they will be quickly detected and help offered to you. It shouldnt be seen as being threatening.

tehy are just trying to help take the offer of help so you know in the event of you getting pnd again you have support

I think I was probably classed as "high risk" for PND owing to having previously had a stillbirth. As it happened, I didn't get it, but I did have HV home visits for a bit longer than the average before I was asked to come to clinic. It was very subtly done and no-one actually ever said I was high risk (though I knew I would have been classified as such)

Your MW should not have rushed you over this, that is bad.

thank you x

IMO they are just trying to make sure that they are ready with support should you need it, being "high risk" means that they will be less likely to miss signs and symptoms in this pregnancy so that you dont fall through the net should you suffer with PND.

I think its a good thing - they are ready to catch you if you fall IYKWIM

Please don't dwell on this. There is no guarantee that because you had PND the first time you will have it again (I didn't) so don't let this statement turn into a self fullfilling prophesy. I too think that it was meant to mean that they will be looking out for you to give you help early on if you need it and absolutely nothing else.