Trying to understand depression,Help needed..

[ebbie22]

I know I am Depressed,and am on second lot of anti ds,but im having real trouble accepting the way i am feeling..
My mind is constantly thinking about things,mainly my relationship that is of a long distance..I keep going back and forth in my mind whether we should stay friends or carry on as we are..
I have no sexual feelings for him,is this because of being depression or because of how i feel?
Pls give me some feed back xx

Anyone?

Depression kills any sex drive usually! Your feelings may well be right, but the depression is probably making you confused about it. Do you have anyone in RL to talk to about what is going on?

Sorry to hear about your plight.
Depression can kill libido & cloud your judgement of your relationship.
You said you're on the 2nd lot of antidepressants but some antidepressants can make libido worse-is it possible to discuss this with your GP & try & find a different antidepressant that willlift your mood & hopefully llibido so then you can make a clearer decision.
Wish i could be of more help

Thanks for your replys,am only on day 6 of my antidepressents so i know they take a while to kick in..Feel like i am going crazy and i just cant seem to make any decsions at the moment..
Is it normal to feel worse before you get better?

yes it's quite normal to feel worse before getting better if you've find the antidepressant that suits you. Stick with it-it usually takes 2-3 weeks to feel them beginning to work but up to 8 weeks before you really start to feel better so take one day at a time-i know thats easier said than done-there is light at the end of this tunnel & it should be fast approaching!

Yes,it will take about 4-6 weeks for the meds to stablise your mood,it's very common to feel quite a bout of anxiety when you first start the meds.I actually have had 2 weeks worth of valium to take alongside my anti-d's when I have taken them in the past as my anxiety was through the roof.

Depression really effects your libido (and sadly so do some types of anti-d's)

Thanks again for replying..Does depression affect how you can feel towards someone though?I look at my dp and think,you need to lose weight,cut ur hair etc,and i dont find him sexually attractive,have no interest in sex and even a cuddle feels awkward?For me i have never felt more shallow to think the way i am,we have 160 miles round trip between us so when he comes down etc i want to feel happy,but i dont..Any advice?

you really need to concentrate on you and getting yourself out of your whole - you need to make changes to your life and no - one but you is going to do it.

i would think that what you are feeling about your partner -= might be just what you would eel anyway - IME the depression is v. insularand focussed on yourself

hole not whole

Thank you custardo,so could my depression be because of my relationship?
I do struggle with the distance between us, as inpossible to see one another thru the week..

Check out a book called - the way out of your prison by Dorothy Rowe. i found it really helpful. good luck

thank you,will jot it down now xx

some meds cause loss of intrest in sex.