Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

Flip

Original poster

So I told the doctor I wanted to kill myself

19 replies

Koshka · 31/07/2008 08:40

And she asked me why I havent.

I said I didn't trust P to look after our DS properly if he was on his own all the time with him.

She didn't really care she just told me (again) that I should exesize and lose weight and i'll feel better.

I felt really let down that she just said that and now I feel worse than ever, it took me months to go to the GP to tell her how i really feel and now it fells like I shouldn't have bothered.

Don't really know what I was expecting her to say really.

Dont know why i'm saying this to you, but I needed to vent!

OP posts:

Hassled · 31/07/2008 08:43

Please go and see a different GP - that's a appalling response. There is a lot can be done to help people with severe depression, and no-one should just dismiss you like that.

Original poster

Koshka · 31/07/2008 08:45

thanks hassled.
I went to the female doctor that was available as the men are all older and mostly old-school types.

The surgery is so big you never see the same doctor twice unless you book 2 weeks in advance.
I only get the courage to go/fit in with DS that morning!

OP posts:

Mimsy2000 · 31/07/2008 08:46

what a crass and stupid response. i totally agree that you should go see another GP and perhaps say in no uncertain terms that 'you want help' 'you feel depressed' so that the most obtuse gp can give you some practical help.

Original poster

Koshka · 31/07/2008 08:54

thank you.

I just realised how crass my thread title is.
FGS.

OP posts:

PinkChick · 31/07/2008 08:55

what a horribe person..how could she not see how hard it was for you to go in and say something like that..i would personally ring your midwife(hoping she is better than the docs!)and ask to refered to local CPN , i did this and mine was fantastic, showing me how to not be so hard on myself, to let go a bit and let others help, allt hese things i never did and although still find hard to do...she will also help you in other ways like discovering what the prob is and helping to get it sorted.
Good luck chick and please dont be detered by this horrible gp, they obv didnt have a clue how to handle it and panicked

aGalChangedHerName · 31/07/2008 08:56

Oh Koshka (agalch from the July thread)

Don't let the imbecile you saw put you off getting the help you need and deserve.
Go back and see someone else please!!

I am so sorry you are feeling so bad xx

bristols · 31/07/2008 08:59

What a stupid thing for her to say. How about getting in touch with your HV? She could liase between you and the GP and hopefully get you the appropriate help without you even having to see them.

Don't give up. I know how hard it is to make that first appointment.

Original poster

Koshka · 31/07/2008 09:01

Thanks guys

I feel extra bad as I have f-ed up at work, and I work for a bank so it is pretty bad (nothing that a couple of hundred £ compo didn't sort out though TBH)

I sometimes feel like i want to be locked up or something.

OP posts:

Dilberta · 31/07/2008 09:01

stupid doctor. I told mine the same last week. She said she'd find me a counsellor but wouldn't give me anti-D's.
Been a week and I'm still waiting on the 'urgent'

lou031205 · 31/07/2008 09:01

Surprisingly, in my experience, male GPs can be more empathetic than female. They might not be worth writing off.

Original poster

Koshka · 31/07/2008 09:02

Its not even 1st appt though!

Had PND for 18months ish and on Citalopram. she gave me some other tablewts, but told me that they arent going to make me feel better!

OP posts:

TheodoresMummy · 31/07/2008 09:12

Koshka - I know it's hard but you must persevere with this. Find another doctor (could a friend or your HV recommend a good one ?). You have had the courage to speak up once. The next time will be easier.

There are some great GPs out there (mine is totally fab). It's a shame that it's down to you to seek one out especially as you are feeling so low, but it will make all the difference when you find the right one.

Original poster

Koshka · 31/07/2008 09:13

Thank you for all your advice you have made me feel loads better!

I'm off to bed now (yay) as I have been at work all night and DS is at nursery (the best place ever ever EVER)

Thank you again x

OP posts:

PinkChick · 31/07/2008 09:14

also, ive found the same about male docs, the best doc at our surgery is male and fantastic, very 'out there' with his ideas and will give you alrenative help as well as drugs...try one of the male docs, you may be surprised?

PinkChick · 31/07/2008 09:15

have a good rest Koshka.

Elasticwoman · 31/07/2008 17:01

Koshka, never mind about losing weight, but evil gp has a point about exercise. Can you get out in this glorious weather and enjoy moving? EG, long walk, do the garden? Sounds like you have high pressure, sedentary, cooped up in the offic job. Even better would be something a bit social, like tennis. Swimming is good (although doesn't always get you out in the fresh air) if you are carrying a bit of extra weight because you don't put so much pressure on your joints and the water keeps you cool.

Poor gp only has 7 mins to talk you out of your depression. I know she should have been more compassionate and at least suggested counselling, but they say that depression is the most common complaint that people bring to the gp and maybe she'd already heard it 10 times that day. You would probably have had a more sympathetic and patient listening ear from the Samaritans.

Elasticwoman · 01/08/2008 21:09

I'd like to think Koshka is out running round with her ds, enjoying the sunshine and shaking out the cobwebs!

Original poster

Koshka · 02/08/2008 11:43

Hello!
When you wrote that I was at work!
Me and DS are going to the exciting Morrisons for lunch and then shopping....my life is the excitement

OP posts:

filthymindedvixen · 07/08/2008 19:16

I have only just seen this
Koshka, please talk to your HV, she probably knows you and your situation better than the a 'pool' gp.

I know you are working and so there isn't much time for 'you' but can you talk to a family member about how you are feeling? Your mum?

You are doing a fantastic job and you have so much to be proud of - you're a great mum, your ds adores you, you are holding down a job, you are bright, young and pretty and have so much ahead of you. And you can beat this.

Exercise is really important in maintaining good mental health, so anything you can do (someone else mentioned swimming, which is a great start) will help. Also, the stupid GP could have mentioned Excercise On Prescription, which gives you heavily subsidised gym and swimming sessions at your local pool....

Counselling might also be beneficial - I know somewhere which does free, unlimited counselling for women in your town. Unfortunately, there is a waiting list, but if you think this might be useful, let me know and I can pass the info on to you.

Take care of yourself and that lovely lad of yours x

Flip