Those with spouse that has mental illness, or vice versa. Did you stay or leave? Did your spouse stay or leave?

[mende2010]

Those with spouse that has mental illness, or vice versa. Did you stay or leave? Did your spouse stay or leave? And if you don't mind share what is your illness?

I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED), yep that is a mental illness, you can Google it.

My husband when meet me since day one know I am a girl with mental illness, and severe anxiety. He went on married me and stay 16 years long, and still stay.

I am currently in therapy working on my Intermittent Anger Explosive Disorder (IED).

Yeah. Ok.

I have been with my partner for nearly 20 years. I have bipolar and have mental health issues on and off throughout all of our relationship.

There have been a couple of times when my mental illness has made the relationship difficult. Once was when I was manic and another time was when I was having another depressive episode having dropped out of mental health services after thinking I was fine. This was pre bipolar diagnosis.

Our relationship works because he doesn't not have a mental illness, he is not my carer or responsible to managing my mood. I can't say I'm perfect but I try my best not to pull the "but I'm depressed so my day was worse than yours". I am responsible for managing my health which means getting a sensible amount of sleep every night, eating a nutritionally balanced diet, managing my stress and commitments as well as engaging with help and support and taking medication as prescribed. It's a dull life at times but it has massively improved my mental health and reduced the number of episodes I have and lengthened the time between episodes.

If I, or he, were remotely violent I would say it was time to leave. Throwing the knife may well have been a consequence of your mental health condition but knowing that your health could endanger the life of your spouse and staying in that relationship makes it an abusive relationship. There is only so much that can be done in the moment if the actions are caused by the mental illness but we owe it to our spouses to put things in place before that situation comes up. I would much rather live away from my partner when well than injury or harm him when unwell.

I have a question for you, maybe this is not a thing in UK, but it is in US

I'm with my husband 16 years, and since day one know him he already hunt, he kills deer and cut up the flesh meat, and he donate the meat to Hunters for Hungers program so the poor has venison meat to eat.

He also own 8 guns (riffles, tactical shotguns), outdoor shooting range is another hobby of his, he shoot at stationary and moving targets.

btw, in America citizens allow to own guns.I am guessing it not an UK thing. But hobbies like this is normal for men in America.

Sure there must be a knife welding hunters wives forum in the USA that may better suit this particular niche.

Gun control is tightly regulated it is unusual to have to own a gun in the UK. There are ~5 guns per 100 people depending on the survey rather than >100 per 100 people in the US.

Gun ownership and hunting are not part of most people's lives in the UK, the types of weapons that can be held and by whom is controlled as well as what can be hunted, when it can be hunted and what can be used to hunt.,

Exactly. Hence the number of gun-related deaths in the US is c.47,000 annually vs c.32 in England and Wales. Some hobby! Perhaps one reason why OP has such a cavalier attitude to maiming and potentially killing her partner, and the idea of being raped by him, as if that makes it some match made in heaven!

There's nothing to crow about how solid this relationship is. Mental illness doesn't absolve a person from abusive behaviour. Lots of people with MH issues don't harm others and would certainly take it more seriously if they had done.

Christ if I was your husband and you chucked a knife at me I'd definitely leave I wouldn't hang around to get assaulted