Husband has had enough of me

[ThisSillySquid]

My mum passed away in March and my kids are growing up. I can't stop crying. My husband says he has had enough of my crying. My mum told me I was selfish and cold-hearted. I lost my patience with my daughter yesterday and snapped at her. I am a burden to everyone. everything seems so pointless.

Just as an aside, the OPs husband has Asperger's or is, like their daughter, autistic, so I think perhaps it may not be quite so black and white.

OP, I strongly urge you to contact your GP and ask for an emergency appointment as you are severely depressed

What is the dose of the anti depressants because yes they may need adjusted?
Have you been assessesd on how they are going?
.All mums snap
All mums have moments.
Grieving is a natural process.
The husbands comments need to be halted.
Can or do one of you need slme space or a chance to get away for a break?
Is there a friend to go and visit or something you can do or use to help you relax, take a moment in a day to find a vice?
Stop obsorbing every comment your partner flies off with and remember to expand your circle when life is tough.
If you feel isolated and alone and need a friend...ring someone or a help line?
I talked to eap today...wow what a relief a neutral person telling me what i can not hear from people close to me and mayne shows you of you feel alone really you are not.
Kids and husbands can be utterly selfish no matter what level, age or spectrum they are on.
Today try and think about talking to your gp about the crying... not comments flying out of that mans mouth.
He can zip it unless its positive.
Life is happening and perhaps he has forgotten to appreciate you are greiving & spunding to me very low.
♡ Go call a support service or family or friend ♡
No shame in asking or needing to talk, vent or asking for help.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP, nothing is harder than this deep grief.

Your husband and children need you, of course they do, but it’s hard to cope with raw grief on an ongoing basis.

Can you get some bereavement counselling from Cruse?

Hi there @ThisSillySquid. We're so sorry to hear about your mum and that things are so hard for you at the moment. We hope you're able to seek some help and support in real life as well as here. Your GP might well be able to help, as others have suggested.

In the meantime, we just wanted to post a link to our Mental Health Webguide which has lots of contact details that might be of use. And of course The Samaritans is always there to listen, too. Please do pop back and let us know how you are.

If your Mum told you that you were selfish she doesn’t sound very nice to be honest. (I know that may be difficult to hear, I am saying that with some empathy because my own Mum was very difficult and died of bowel cancer in 2019 and I had very complex feelings around her death). It sounds like you’ve been surrounded by people who don’t have your best interests at heart. It’s okay to snap sometimes, we’re all only human. Be kind to yourself. Think about what is going to make your life better, no one else’s, just yours.