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Asbestos OCD/ Intrusive Thoughts

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wildflower93 · 31/05/2026 08:47

Hi all,

Context: my partner nearly died in December due to a medical emergency and since then I cannot stop worrying about harm coming to my son or me somehow falling in and leaving him behind. I am a good mum. We have endless fun and we do endless activities together. He is adored.

Last March I discovered what asbestos was. I knew it was a dangerous material but after my brother pulling out of a house due to it, it crippled me with anxiety. The nature of it being a long latency period and the inability to discover the level of exposure has crippled me.

As a result, I had a surveyor come round to test some artex ceilings. Initially, he was supposed to test 5 but he only needed to test 2 as the others were sandtex and wallpaper. This made me calm for a while but then I started to panic about all the other areas of ceiling that had been left etc.

We are selling the house and needed to get some ceilings skimmed and parts removed. So I had my son’s room tested by an additional surveyor- also negative.

During this time, I asked both surveyors to look inside my under stairs cupboard that houses the boiler.

Both said there’s nothing to be concerned about in there. However, more recently I’ve discovered what insulation boards are. The plaster in our cupboard is heavily damaged and broken half way down (assuming by age and the location).

We’ve also had a new boiler fitted and the plaster/ wall has been drilled through. I asked my gas engineer about whether it was insulation board and he said he wouldn’t have a clue. The boiler wasn’t significantly old- around 15 years.

I am plagued by this cupboard. Despite two expert opinions, I am convinced that it’s damaged ACM as Google says you can’t tell by looking.

My partner is telling me that we don’t need to get it tested and that if I do then it’s me doing another compulsion that will inevitably just latch on to something else. I fear that he’s completely right! I’m going back to the roof replacement that we had now and freaking out. It’s just an endless amount of stress that I can’t keep on top of.

The physical symptoms are crazy right now.
I can’t sleep properly, I’m not eating. I’m getting out and about for my son.

I’m receiving private talk therapy weekly, I do a hypnotherapy class once a week. I’m finally receiving CBT/ ERP beginning on Friday from the NHS with the hopes that it will refer me for psychotherapy and to see a proper psychiatrist. The assessor believes I may have PTSD from what happened to my partner.

There’s no real reason in me writing this. I’m just absolutely convinced my child will get unwell and it will be my fault. If anything ever happened to him I could not live.

Has anyone got better?

OP posts:
wildflower93 · 31/05/2026 08:47

*falling ill

OP posts:
Lizzbear · 31/05/2026 08:53

I’m
sorry you’re feeling so awful op. We had an old back-boiler removed by a workman a few months ago. We think there’s asbestos on the bottom of the fireplace. I worried a lot about it at first, but seem to have told myself that it’s ok as long as we don’t disturb it.
I may get it tested for my peace of mind.
I have intrusive, obsessive thoughts, but they’re around relationships/friendships.
I would love to have ERP but haven’t found anyone who does it.
Im having a private zoom call with a psychiatrist soon as my anxiety is making me ill too.
Sending solidarity.

wildflower93 · 31/05/2026 09:03

Lizzbear · 31/05/2026 08:53

I’m
sorry you’re feeling so awful op. We had an old back-boiler removed by a workman a few months ago. We think there’s asbestos on the bottom of the fireplace. I worried a lot about it at first, but seem to have told myself that it’s ok as long as we don’t disturb it.
I may get it tested for my peace of mind.
I have intrusive, obsessive thoughts, but they’re around relationships/friendships.
I would love to have ERP but haven’t found anyone who does it.
Im having a private zoom call with a psychiatrist soon as my anxiety is making me ill too.
Sending solidarity.

Sending you lots of love. It’s consuming my life.

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PearlsTeapot · 31/05/2026 12:27

I'm so sorry you're suffering so badly. it's good you're getting help. For me the only thing that helped me be able to live with OCD was ERP so I hope the same for you.

Lizzbear · 31/05/2026 13:11

PearlsTeapot · 31/05/2026 12:27

I'm so sorry you're suffering so badly. it's good you're getting help. For me the only thing that helped me be able to live with OCD was ERP so I hope the same for you.

Where did you get ERP please?

wildflower93 · 31/05/2026 13:31

Lizzbear · 31/05/2026 13:11

Where did you get ERP please?

I’ve been referred for CBT through the NHS but I’m hoping they’ll see how bad it is and refer me for ERP. If it’s rubbish I’ve actually arranged a call with a therapist from the priory on Wednesday for ERP. She seems really good and clued up on asbestos ocd (lifeeee) but it’s £80 a session. I will just have to make sacrifices to afford it as I can’t stay the way I am

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Lizzbear · 31/05/2026 19:13

wildflower93 · 31/05/2026 13:31

I’ve been referred for CBT through the NHS but I’m hoping they’ll see how bad it is and refer me for ERP. If it’s rubbish I’ve actually arranged a call with a therapist from the priory on Wednesday for ERP. She seems really good and clued up on asbestos ocd (lifeeee) but it’s £80 a session. I will just have to make sacrifices to afford it as I can’t stay the way I am

Good luck op. I hope it helps you, really I do.

PearlsTeapot · Yesterday 10:13

I had erp privately through the priory north London. It changed my life.

Lizzbear · Yesterday 10:15

PearlsTeapot · Yesterday 10:13

I had erp privately through the priory north London. It changed my life.

That’s amazing. Thank you for replying. Can’t afford atm but am paying for an appointment with a psychiatrist in 2 weeks. Hope that will clarify things a bit!

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