How to deal with anxiety caused by past trauma!

[bears789]

I am 40, I have been married to my lovely husband for 11 years. We have 3 children. All good. He's very hands on with our family life and has never given me any reasons to doubt him. He is honest to a fault.

My problem is that, when my husband goes out socialising and drinking....which to be fair, is about 3 times a year......I turn into a monster. I can't speak to him for days. Im angry at him etc. He thinks I dont want him to have a life but I know its PTSD from a past relationship playing up.

As I say, hes never broken my trust, I 100% trust him but....I know im living my past trauma again. My ex was up to no good when he was out drinking. He cheated on me a lot when out. To the point that I had massive anxiety when he went out. And I know thats my automatic reaction now when my husband goes out.....please help me get past this? I know im not being fair to him at all. And well done to me for realising that I have a problem and asking for help!

Thanks in advance for any suggestions on how to stop this. I have had CBT before if anyone has any tasks like that I can do.

It's something hypnotherapy/remedial hypnosis can help with. Your conscious mind knows your husband hasn't done anything wrong, but your subconscious is still working on old patterns of protective thinking/behaviour based on your previous experience.

You don't have to go into great detail or to relive the past, it should be a fairly quick and simple process.

Do you have a diagnosis of PTSD? If so, then they should be able to refer you for appropriate treatment

Thanks both - I've never heard of remedial hypnosis, I will look into it.

No I have no diagnosis of PTSD. I only have a diagnosis of GAD x

EMDR. Much as people claim CBT helps trauma, directly, personally I doubt it.

There are quite long waits for EMDR on the NHS but it varies by area so I'd try. Also if you can afford it there are private therapists. Go through the BACP website though so you know you're getting someone reputable.