How do I help him

[Goingmadyetagain123]

I'm having a massive crisis with my mh and have been put under the care of the crisis team. Its been a horrible couple of years and I cannot cope anymore. I want to die.

My husband is so upset and stressed. He is the only thing keeping me here but I cant stand that I am making him feel this way. Im trying so hard but I can barely keep myself safe. He has his own health issues that I worry I am making worrsr. I cant stand to see him like this and I am trying to get myself sorted out but I just dont know how to help him when I barely have the energy to help myself. I wish I'd never told him or the Dr's how I really feel. It's like I've made everything worse .

You can't help him. In the same way he can't magically make you better either. All you can do is follow the advice and look after yourself x

Sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time OP. Perhaps write a note or text to him just saying how much you appreciate his help and recognise how hard it is for him too. That generally goes down well as he will have it to look at when things are particularly difficult. Then as others have said it’s just a case of following the treatment advice and trying to get better one step at a time. Do you have other people for support OP? May help for him to have a bit of respite (and you too).

He’s there for you because he loves you, you overthinking anything else to with with what you’re going through will only make it worse for you then worse for him so concentrate on getting through your own stuff. Huge hugs op x

Sorry you are feeling so poorly xxx
feeling guilty about the affect it has on loved ones is part of the illness. Being mentally ill is not a choice you’ve made and I think you are doing amazing by opening up to people and getting help. That takes a lot of courage and I know (from my own experience) the guilt and shame you can feel but honestly you had no other choice as the alternative doesn’t bear thinking about.
on a practical level he may be able to get some support from the crisis team - I recently left psychiatric hospital and they offered my husband support