Can they discharge my husband home without discussing his care with me?

[Dontunderstand0283]

I am feeling very frustrated. My husband is currently staying as a voluntary patient in a psychiatric hospital. This is the second time. He is probably coming out this weekend. He suffers from depression and psychosis. We had a row before he went in which triggered this latest breakdown. We have not spoken since.
When he got there he withdrew consent for them to tell me anything because he was mad with me and not thinking straight.
I know this has to be respected, but I cant understand it in these types of situations.
There is a long background but I have been his carer, advocate and attended all meetings etc. I dont want to do this anymore due to a lot of reasons. We are going to be seperating which they are aware of . But they will quite happily discharge him back in to my care and home, where our children are. Without telling me anything. How can this be right?
I wont know his care plan, his medication, anything to expect, side effects etc. And hes not ok to look after himself. Any advice please?

You need to tell them your home isn’t safe for him/you/DC.

Have you started divorce proceedings?

unsafe discharge.
you will potentially need carers or something if he can’t remember to take his meds.
id put my concerns in writing and follow up with a phone call to make sure they have received my email.

id also ask him if he is content to let you know about his needs etc now he is no longer angry with you, ashe could update them.

But it’s his home too. I know this is harsh but he can’t remain in hospital once he is medically fit. He can’t be housed in emergency accommodation as he has a home. If he is not a risk to the children then there’s nothing they can do. You could self refer to children’s services and express your concerns.
It’s hard but there is really nowhere else for people to go. There’s such a wait for acute beds toI.

If they deem he has capacity then they can’t go against his wishes I’m afraid.

@Dontunderstand0283

Safety and Safeguarding (The Exception)

While patient confidentiality is paramount, it is not absolute.

Safety Concerns: If you are worried about the safety of your children, you should immediately inform the ward staff. If there is a risk of serious harm, confidentiality can be broken, and they must act, as outlined in this government information.
Children and Care: If you are listed as his primary carer, the hospital should involve you in planning

Contact the ward and explain your concerns, because of the children, stressing your concern about keeping them safe.

Contact PALS at the hospital too.

Yes he has capacity. He is not a danger and I trust that they wouldnt discharge him anyway if they felt that way
My annoyance is centred around not informing the people who live with that person of what going on
There has been an important meeting today but noone has got in contact with me so I have no idea what's going on. How can that be ok?