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Feeling suicidal and unsure how to cope right now

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SlinkyMalinkyy · 06/05/2026 06:04

I don’t want to be here anymore. I just want my life to be over now but I don’t have the option.

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Plasticdreams · 06/05/2026 06:07

This feeling will pass and better days are not far away. What is happening in your life that is making you feel like you don’t want to be here?
I would call the Samaritans immediately- they are wonderful and have helped me when I have felt the same

SlinkyMalinkyy · 06/05/2026 06:11

Plasticdreams · 06/05/2026 06:07

This feeling will pass and better days are not far away. What is happening in your life that is making you feel like you don’t want to be here?
I would call the Samaritans immediately- they are wonderful and have helped me when I have felt the same

Thank you. I have been severely alienated from my oldest child by abusive ex and grandmother, I had court yesterday and I’ve lost all hope of ever getting him back. Ending it all isn’t an option as I’m a carer for my youngest child but I just feel so hopeless now and I want it all to be over.

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 06/05/2026 06:12

Please have a look here - there is always a Reason To Stay xx

This will pass x

https://reasonstostay.org

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Home | Reasons To Stay

https://reasonstostay.org

Luddite26 · 06/05/2026 06:19

I totally hear what you are saying. Please realise you are worth being here. Don't let them drag you to such a low spot. I get that you are worn out with it.
You have to keep going. Don't let the bastards grind you down - make it your mantra.
You are here this is your time. Don't let them wreck it for you.
Your own kids turning against you can feel like a betrayal but remember DC is being influenced one day they can make their own mind up. And one child isn't treating you like that. Don't feel alone.

Plasticdreams · 06/05/2026 06:31

SlinkyMalinkyy · 06/05/2026 06:11

Thank you. I have been severely alienated from my oldest child by abusive ex and grandmother, I had court yesterday and I’ve lost all hope of ever getting him back. Ending it all isn’t an option as I’m a carer for my youngest child but I just feel so hopeless now and I want it all to be over.

That sounds incredibly hard. I know that there were times that only having children stopped me from doing something but the feeling passes and things improved. Mine was family related too (parents) the cruelty is very hard to take. As I mentioned before, I would call Samaritans, they are incredible and just hearing a kind voice with empathy when everything feels so hard and cruel really is comforting

HopeMumsnet · 06/05/2026 06:55

Hi Slinky,
We're so sorry you're feeling this way.
We can see that you've already been given some good advice and support from other Mumsnetters, but we just wanted to add some links to organisations which may be able to give you some help in real life too.
First of all, here's a link to our Mental Health resources. There are many organisations listed which can provide you with some support. If you're feeling very low, you can contact the Samaritans, any time, by emailing [email protected] or by calling 116 123.
You can also get help from a text service called Shout 85258. Its trained volunteers are available all hours of the day and night to listen and support you to get to a calmer and safe place. It's a free, confidential, anonymous service for anyone in the UK and it won’t appear on your phone bill.
And finally, here's a link to Mind's pages on Tips for everyday living and How to improve your mental wellbeing.
Sending good wishes, OP. We can see that you've had a tough time of it and really hope that things feel a little bit brighter this morning. 🌻

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LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 06/05/2026 06:59

If you’re in the UK can you call 111 option two? It sounds like things are really tough, it’s good that your youngest is giving you a feeling of needing to stay. This is just a season but sometimes they’re really bloody shit. Well done for reaching out

iamnotalemon · 06/05/2026 08:14

I’m really sorry you are feeling like this - it’s a horrible way to feel. Unfortunately I have no advice for you but please reach out for help.

Missingsea · 06/05/2026 13:33

SlinkyMalinkyy · 06/05/2026 06:11

Thank you. I have been severely alienated from my oldest child by abusive ex and grandmother, I had court yesterday and I’ve lost all hope of ever getting him back. Ending it all isn’t an option as I’m a carer for my youngest child but I just feel so hopeless now and I want it all to be over.

I'm sorry you're going through such a painful situation. I wanted to let you know you are not alone. I struggle with these thoughts too, but am also a carer for my child.
When I feel like this, I remember how much I mean to them, and how it isn't an option. I know that doesn't make the struggle hurt any less though. Keep going. Try to focus on anything that brings you strength and meaning. I logged on here to read and respond to others who are struggling, and that has helped me today

EssexCat · 06/05/2026 13:35

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 06/05/2026 06:59

If you’re in the UK can you call 111 option two? It sounds like things are really tough, it’s good that your youngest is giving you a feeling of needing to stay. This is just a season but sometimes they’re really bloody shit. Well done for reaching out

And be honest. Really honest about how you feel. They can put support and help in place for you.

I have been under crisis team in past and was helped so much.

MarmadukeM · 06/05/2026 20:13

EssexCat · 06/05/2026 13:35

And be honest. Really honest about how you feel. They can put support and help in place for you.

I have been under crisis team in past and was helped so much.

I agree with this - when you are feeling desperate they are very good at listening and helping calm you down. They sometimes get criticised but I do think that in real crisis they are a godsend

Cocktailglass · 06/05/2026 20:22

I totally get you, have felt this way at times throughout my life. I told myself wait until tomorrow, think of those who love you, think about the little good things in life.

So much help out there, please use it. The phrase 'this too shall pass' is true. It may pass, like losing loved ones, but the pain will always be there and comes in waves, often tsunami, but you think yes I'm feeling t and need to go through it.

No matter the reason, anyone who feels the depths of despair feels it and it's valid. Acknowledge it, accept it, know millions of others are feeling the same. Distract yourself, put off this decision til tomorrow and wake up for a new day. Xx

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