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Tips for managing anxiety after difficult feedback at work

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MaybeNeverSoon · 21/04/2026 09:11

I would feel embarassed admitting this in real life but I am hyper sensitive to any kind of negative feedback and it spikes my anxiety. I have always been this way even though I am now mid forties with two children and a successful job! I have a very thin skin.

I recently had an appraisal at work and was given feedback on things I need to improve. I found this so hard to hear (I responded professionally / appropriately in the meeting) that my anxiety has spiralled since and I am struggling to eat and sleep properly. My rational brain knows the feedback was not that negative but my irrational brain doesn’t listen.

I was previously on Sertraline for 18 months but weaned off two years ago. It helped with my anxiety but made me feel exhausted and I would rather try and manage this without medication. I also had some advice from a therapist with coping strategies (like writing down my worries etc) but I don’t find that makes much of a difference. I am taking 5HTP which might just be a placebo but is worth a try.

does anyone out there have any tips that have worked for them, managing anxiety as a highly sensitive person?

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MaybeNeverSoon · 21/04/2026 16:29

topcat2014 · 21/04/2026 13:35

Was the feedback fair? I really struggle if I feel it is unfair, at the injustice etc.

Mind you, I was sacked from a senior job last year and have gone off work big style since

Yes it was fair, thankfully! It’s more the feeling that a previous poster describes above that everyone thinks I am shit. My rational mind knows that isn’t right. But my irrational brain spirals and, when I can’t distract myself, I struggle to catch my breath, have no appetite, and can’t sleep properly.

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MyKindHiker · 21/04/2026 16:36

Have you considered either CBT or hypnosis?

Both can be very effective at breaking the negative thought 'spiral' associated with anxiety in certain situations, eg: negative thought spiral from (perceived) negative feedback.

MaybeNeverSoon · 21/04/2026 16:44

MyKindHiker · 21/04/2026 16:36

Have you considered either CBT or hypnosis?

Both can be very effective at breaking the negative thought 'spiral' associated with anxiety in certain situations, eg: negative thought spiral from (perceived) negative feedback.

Thank you @MyKindHiker another poster mentioned CBT which I will look into but I hadn’t thought of hypnosis - I will research!

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topcat2014 · 21/04/2026 18:14

Is getting a new job a possibility? No one should feel at work under duress

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