Could this be PMDD or perimenopause causing severe premenstrual overwhelm?

[Zombiequeenxx]

Hi everyone.
Looking for some support from anyone who may have or is experiencing this.

For a number of years now (probably worse since my 2nd born who is 6) I am really struggling.
I will try and explain as best I can.

The 1.5/2 weeks prior to my period I am literally all over the place. I cannot regulate my emotions, my tolerance levels are very low, I get very overstimulated easily to the point I feel like I am going to physically be sick and I am so tired.

I start stressing over every single thing, so it will not only be ‘normal housework’ I will start saying everything in the house is a mess, I can’t cope and I would rather sell the house, but that is genuinely how I feel at that moment in time.
I will get half way round a supermarket and abandon my shopping because I’ve suddenly been unable to cope with how overwhelmed I feel.

There’s more but that’s the only examples I can think of at the moment.
Some months it gets so bad that I don’t want to be here anymore.

Outwith that 1.5/2 weeks I still feel like this but no where near intense, it is much more manageable. I have always felt like this to a certain degree but again it has become worse since my 2nd born.

I spoke to the doctor a while back who did not really tell me what might be wrong but said the pill might help. I have been on this for 3 months now and no difference.

I know I need to return to the GP but just wondering if anyone has any experience of feeling like this and what if anything helped?
I keep wondering is it peri menopause (I’m 39), is it PMDD, symptoms were there before but have just intensified since my second born. Or is it bloody ADHD. I actually don’t care what it is to be honest I just want to know what might help 😫

thank you if you if you got to the end of this.

I had similar - certain times of the month I could not remember what time it was or how to get home. That was PMDD for me.
Perimenopause was more a slow decline and then not being able to remember how to make a cup of tea or load the dishwasher - so it wasn't cyclical just constant.
Sorry to say that NHS was no help at all with these issues. Going to a private gynaecologist saved my sanity.

I really feel for you!

I've posted twice myself this week (for the first time) as the psychological symptoms are driving me mad!
I have also thought PMDD and ADHD. I am already taking HRT for perimenopause but it's not really helping me.

I've made an appointment with a private gynaecologist (I also have fibroids and potential adenomyosis) so I'm going to mention the psychological symptoms too. It's not ideal, but I've already been waiting since Xmas to see one on the NHS.

I'm 44. It all started about 2-3 years ago for me.

Thank you so much for replying!

Im so sorry you’re feeling this way as well,
It’s so frustrating isn’t it!

The things I say during the time I feel this way is actually ridiculous, but it is genuinely how I feel and what I think and that time, then bang soon as I get my period everything settles! Well the irrationally settles but the emotions remain.

I really hope you get some answers at your appointment.

Thank you.
I don't have periods as I had an endometrial resection in 2019 so I'm never quite sure what phase I'm at in the cycle. I do feel like I have more good times than bad, but the bad times are intense.
I am just coming out of an episode - started to turn the corner yesterday. My worse day was Wednesday. I cried so hard I was dry wretching, couldn't eat, was convinced I had a life threatening illness and this was the end. I am also trying to tell myself it is just a phase and it will pass (which, luckily it always has).
I actually called my partner at work and he did pop back, as I was just pacing around the house - my brain felt swollen and noisy and I couldn't escape.
I've been doing a lot of reflecting this cycle - reading various things about histamines and progesterone intolerance - desperately trying to find answers.
I'm realising I've made some pretty big decisions whilst I'm in the PMDD zone - including quitting my job a year ago. I was studying at the time, which has now finished. So I am worrying a lot about returning to work and feeling like an absolute lunatic for certain periods!