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Why am I feeling so insecure?

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Masemellowmum · 04/04/2026 22:29

Hey everyone I'm 24 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I'm feeling so insecure. I have these reoccurring thoughts that after I have had my second child my husband of 10 years won't find me attractive anymore, he has not shown any sign of it and tells me he will still find me attractive no matter what and that he loves me and all the changes to my body is beautiful, I'm bringing life into the world... but I keep having these thoughts that really upset and scare me that he won't and he will leave me. I have told him of these thoughts and he has been amazing with listening understanding and tries to reassure me but it helps for a little while and then the thoughts come flooding in again and I dont want to annoy him (honestly deep down I doubt it would annoy him) with constantly needing the reassurance. Should I potentially talk to my midwife about these constant feelings any advice would be great thanks if in wrong group please let me know and I will shift to the appropriate category

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Batties · 04/04/2026 22:30

What was he like after the birth of your first child?

Bumblebeehee · 04/04/2026 22:38

I think you should talk to your midwife,
seems like a form of anxiety that come in many forms.
I am also pregnant and the more pregnant I get the more I have intrusive thoughts that something awful will happen to my kids. It’s actually a form of OCD believe it or not! Speak to someone, you will feel better about it.

Masemellowmum · 04/04/2026 22:43

Batties · 04/04/2026 22:30

What was he like after the birth of your first child?

He was amazing after our first child, gave me all the love care and told me constantly I looked amazing and beautiful. When my clothes didnt fit the same he would encourage me to go out any buy clothes that made me feel happy and confident. I honestly cant fault him in any way and hes still the same now its why I cant wrap my head around why I'm feeling this way.

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Masemellowmum · 04/04/2026 22:49

Bumblebeehee · 04/04/2026 22:38

I think you should talk to your midwife,
seems like a form of anxiety that come in many forms.
I am also pregnant and the more pregnant I get the more I have intrusive thoughts that something awful will happen to my kids. It’s actually a form of OCD believe it or not! Speak to someone, you will feel better about it.

Thank you I have a midwife appointment coming up soon I will mention it to her when I see her. Oh bless you I can't imagine the anxiety u must have with those thoughts I hope ur getting all the help and support you need. I suffer from anxiety and depression outside of pregnancy and bad mental health runs in my family. Didn't realise its a form of OCD thank you for teaching me something new 😊

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