I don’t know where to start.
Work has become a nightmare. Trying to implement ISO9001 and everything has changed. Work want the changes that would emerge from this being implemented before it’s been implemented. Hard to manage their expectations. I’m trying. I really am
Kids are a nightmare. We’ve 4 kids between us. 2 each. Teens. Pushing boundaries
Biggest cause of all of this - I moved into DPs house 4 years ago. Gone on the mortgage. He got divorced around 6 years ago and he paid his ex wife off around £20k though she should have received more. Agreement was I’d give him a bulk payment of £10k to cover his debts and pay a higher amount to make up the difference of the equity. Around £120k equity in the house - mortgage of £120k and it’s worth £240k by it going up in price since he bought it 10 years ago, as opposed to him paying this off. Over 10 years my overpayment on out outgoings works out as 60k. Outgoings each month montage and bills of £1300 and I pay £1000. Everytime we have any sort of disagreement he comes out with “tell me how much you want as a settlement” - basically told him I feel like a lodger with a vested interest.
Please can someone knock some sense into me and talk me through this?
Each time we have any sort argument he goes through a period of around 5-6 days of literally not speaking to me. I’ve told him I cannot cope with this any longer. I’m at the point of just not wanting to be here any more. I’ve told him this. Made it clear I am literally not wanting to be here. He asked me what was wrong and I brought up how he makes me feel about the house and he again has just gone to bed in a strop.
To be transparent - I earn around £65k per annum. So I could manage alone. I’m just bereft.