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Considering cutting off parents and siblings due to past trauma

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Mumof4girlshectic · 17/03/2026 08:29

I couldn't really find a catogary to put this in but has anyone cut off their entire family and not regretted it? I don't meet my children or my fella, they are my world, this isn't about running away from them.... Its my family. My parents, my siblings and everone else. I'm 29, fellas 28, I have 4 girls and my life in the home is pretty good. My family are crap, for context I had a pretty crap childhood, traumatising and horrible, my parents were both pretty crap, then when I was 14 I had a baby with an adult man nobody cared, I had help but nobody asked about him or what I'd been through, I had nothing to do with him once I had the baby, moving on I was 14 and with a 30 year old man after that (not babies dad) my family just didn't care, he abused me for 8 years and it was a terrible relationship, my family had him round for dinner when we was together, treated it like a normal relationship and when he did hurt me they took his side or didn't help, I was sectioned once and my friend had to have my then young daughter because none of my family would help, she then had to pretend to be my sister just so I could be released because they seen I had no support network. Anyway fast forward I got with a man my own age we had 3 more babies we moved in together he's not abusive he's amazing and I'm happy but I lived so long in survival mode I'm looking at my life and I have huge resentment for my family. My dad's old now and struggles and I'm his career, he doesn't really have anyone else. We get on and I get on with my mum too but I'm angry and there's always family drama with my siblings I'm dragged into. I know they ain't good for me, I know they've been crap and I just want to cut them all off but I guess I'm scared. They will harass me and stuff I know that. Grg it's so hard.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 17/03/2026 09:42

Have you had any therapy to help with your childhood?

The simple answer to your question is yes, you can cut off your family. But don't do it until you've dealt with the past and can weigh up all the pros and cons to staying in contact/going low contact or full no contact (and all the shades of contact in between).

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