Hoarding or Spending Addiction? I don't know where to get help

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I'm so ashamed. My house is full of 'stuff' I'm struggling at the moment and when I'm feeling low I spend. It's stuff I don't need and has just taken over my home (where I live with DP and 2DC).
I lost my Dad recently and my spending just spiked, its just a little dopamine hit each time which I can now identify.
I feel so shamed and I feel terrible for my family, but I'm not sure where to seek help. Do I ask my doctor? My DP can see me struggling but he won't help me, he makes me feel so small. I appreciate I'm making him unhappy but I work a full time and a part time job and do the lions share of housework, mental load etc which doesn't help with my low mood because I just feel so burned out.
I want to get help so I can stop this mindless spending and not make a negative impact on my family.
Any advice greatly appreciated x

My DP can see me struggling but he won't help me, he makes me feel so small. I appreciate I'm making him unhappy but I work a full time and a part time job and do the lions share of housework, mental load etc which doesn't help with my low mood because I just feel so burned out.
I want to get help so I can stop this mindless spending and not make a negative impact on my family.

From what you have said your dp is the one having a negative impact.

I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a tough time 💐

Start with your GP, yes. Hoarding definitely has a psychological basis so there may be options out there; even if you have to go on a waiting list, it’s better to be on it than not.

If you really can't stop spending, could you immediately gift your purchases to charity shops or friends, so your house doesn't get any fuller than it is?

As for tackling what you already have, I use the following for sorting through rooms:

• start at one corner of a room and start clearing/cleaning it. As you go, put things back where they should be in that room.
• If they belong in another room, leave then outside the door.
• Have a black bin bag with you and throw away what you don't use/junk/anything you can't think of a home for.
• Continue until you have gotten to the last corner of the room.
• then take the pile of things you left outside the room and put them in their homes around the house.

Be ruthless with the decluttering. Everyone in your home, including you, deserves to live in dignity.

If funds permit, pay for some therapy sessions.

I find I get the same dopamine hit from selling things that I do when I buy so first off have you thought about going through some stuff and getting it on vinted ?