Looking for any kindness or words to motivate

[PonderThus]

Not sure where to start…..
A few years ago my dad died suddenly, choking to death eating dinner. A year later, during the covid pandemic I was diagnosed with cancer and had to go to all appointments and significant treatments alone.
Then last year our youngest was diagnosed with a significant and ongoing health issue, that included a 6 month stay in hospital and formal disability recognition.
Last week my employer told me after almost two decades of employment my job no longer exists.

I now bad things happen and none of us know what to expect but this has felt like a lot of ongoing significant stress for a long time. It’s hard not to thing bad things will keep happening.

I’m scared about whether I will find a new job, my health and our child’s health. How do I move on from this? How can I try to be okay?

Instead of spending time and energy pondering ‘what if the worst happens?’ focus instead on ‘how good am I at dealing with life?’

The former is speculation; the latter has hard evidence to back it up – look at what you've coped with;

Your dad's death
Being diagnosed with, treated for and recovering from cancer
Your child's illness
Losing your job (I hope you received the correct redundancy after 20 years?)

Knowing that you had the strength and capability to deal with all these things means that your are forearmed for when the next challenge comes along.

Concentrate on being the best you can be in terms of sleep, fitness and mental resilience and you can take on the world.

Sorry to jump on .....

I have had a really horrible /stressful few weeks and reading this has really helped me.

Thank you

That's a heck of a lot to experience in a short time. But you are still here and have things to do and people to love and be loved by. Some counselling might help.

Sending love and kind thoughts your way.

Read and re-read @Eyesopenwideawake post. Print it out and save it as it may help you draw on the resilience you clearly have.

Just sending empathy OP, had a horrendous time over the past few years. I just keep plugging away, taking note of the glimmers of hope (because hope will always be with you). Stay strong ❤️

Thank you everyone xx

You’ve faced a lot of serious stress, so feeling scared and overwhelmed is completely normal.
It doesn’t mean bad things will keep happening in the future.
Try focusing on small steps each day and lean on people who support you.
With time, support, and patience, things can slowly start to feel manageable again.