Burnt out mum, are antidepressants helpful?

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Have a toddler. I do all childcare, house work and so on
Since he has been born I have only ever had a break of twice.. once for 30 minutes to get hair cut and once for 30 minutes for an appointment, I have never been shops without child etc

Relationship with partner is terrible. He isn't very nice. Also is incapable of staying alone with child for more then 10 minutes..can't take him out alone and so on..

I don't have any friends due to said relationship.

Family aren't that supportive in regards to me needing a break, and don't seem to understand?

I have voiced to everyone is my life how I desperately need a break mentally and no one listens so I've just accepted this is how my life is for now.

Anyway would anti depressants help with feeling so exhausted, on edge, snappy and feel more level?

Right now I'm exhausted and burnt out, and just here...I feel so tired but can NEVER relax. I'm impatient, forgetful, constantly forgetting what I'm thinking, constantly trying to think of what needs to be done...

Thank you

Yes they might help settle your mind and give you some clarity of thought.

Maybe you could put baby in nursery to give yourself a much needed break ?
And it's time for the Father to step up.

It’s time to start thinking of ways to leave that man who is not making you happy and declining to look after and parent his own child. Honestly, you are already a single parent with the added detriment of a terrible relationship.

Agree with the above. Anti depressants are to assist with forms of depression. I think you could rid yourself of this without meds. Ask close family for 1 night a month break (maybe a parent of yours or your terrible halves?) And get rid of him as youre clearly not happy.

I'm sure if you left this man, your mental health would improve pretty quickly.

Hi thanks for your reply
Yes I am planning, but I guess just looking for ways to cope in the mean time while I get everything sorted to get into a better environment.
I know il be a lot happier on my own but until then trying my best ❤️

I went to the GP last year with suicidal ideation and he refused to give me antidepressants. And I have a lovely husband. Ditch the dickhead, I’m sure you’ll feel much better.

It s not being a mother ir s being with crap partner.
Go to gp
Taje meds if gp suggests
Dutch the "partner"
Seek support from hv put child in nursery

Hi Op,

If you are struggling to cope AD's can make a very real difference to your mood. I would definitely suggest speaking to your GP anyway.

You know it's not going to solve your problems. At the moment you are surgically attached to the baby and isolated from friends and that's not ideal for happiness/health.

Do you get free childcare hours? I would definitely be looking at a child minder/nursery even just for a few hours here and there to get some time back.

Why is your partner incapable of looking after the child for 10 minutes? What would happen if you left them together?

Are you going to baby groups? I think it would really help you to find some new friends and a circle of people in the same boat/stage as you. Baby sensory and all those groups are definitely for the mums really. I'm not sure if money is an issue but if it is I think they do story time things at the library and there might be free stuff around from the council.

It does sounds like you need and want to leave but appreciate one step at a time 🌷

I don’t think Ads will help because it’s clear what is causing your feelings and they are not out of context - Ads don’t get rid of real
life situations and your feelings about them - they work alongside lifestyle changes and therapy for people who are depressed.

i think your lifestyle is what needs changing - you don’t sound depressed