Family estrangement

[shoppey]

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with your family cutting you out of their life? I never did anything to justify it. It’s been two months now and I’m not sleeping and crying through the night. I now have no immediate family apart from my husband and two kids. I’m worried anything happens to my mother as she’s very old and I don’t get the chance to ever see her again.

They have also cut contact with my children.

Also dealing with family estrangement. It’s a lonely place to be. Not talking to / ignored by my two brothers who seemed to have teamed up. It was triggered by me calling one brother out for his years of flaking after he was very rude to me. There’s a history there of him being a drug addict and lying and stealing from me which he has never apologised for. His wife also got involved, with both of them calling me continuously in the middle of the night and shouting abuse and swearing down the phone (which they later denied). This is while I have a three month old daughter.

my daughters first birthday is coming up and I texted my other brother about it the other day and am being ignored, it’s very sad as my daughter has never met him (he lives abroad and had said he would come over for it)

but tbh I do think my family is very toxic and ‘enmeshed’ and i am trying to see this as finally flushing out some stress from my life, as sad as it is. My mother is a horrible woman in many ways who has never been much of a mother to me but I have learned to accept her somewhat as she’s older and widowed and I don’t want her to be alone.

My main sadness is my daughter growing up without contact with her two uncles and nephews. I feel guilty for that, even tho it’s ultimately out of my hands (and that guilt is I think a pattern where I bend over to keep the peace)

@starstar84i am sorry you are in this position it’s difficult. You dd being so young won’t know any different and therefore won’t miss them. It’s them that’s missing out

@starstar84I hope you are okay. It’s such a hard time but please know it does get easier.

@shoppey@starstar84i hope you’re both ok

@starstar84it does get easier over time as shoppey says but I find there are triggers that set up back a bit birthdays Christmas special occasions be kind to yourself and you will get through it x