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Is it normal to feel like this after therapy ends?

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Feelingsad2026 · 14/02/2026 19:18

I had 10 sessions of therapy after a 2 year wait, during which I made some life changes that helped my mental health anyway so I was in a better place starting it than I was when referred. It was a mix of EMDR and some talking about my mum/interpersonal skills. All of it was really useful and whilst I wouldn't say I enjoyed going because I don't like talking about myself, and logistically it was hard to fit in, I was pleased I was going.
The sessions came to an end yesterday and I thought I was fine but I've been absolutely bawling my eyes out ever since I left and can't work out exactly why.
The therapist I had was male and not a lot older than me which probably didn't help as I've got form for attaching to men that show me even a tiny bit of kindness and he's probably the only male that's ever shown me any real compassion or understanding, so that was a new experience. Also I feel quite a lot of regret that I didn't reveal the full extent of my difficulties and adopted a businesslike 'nothing to see here ' approach to it.
It just feels like a sort of really deep grief that I finally had someone who was willing to listen to and understand me, and now all of a sudden I don't, and I feel totally and utterly alone. I'm not sure what I'm really asking here, suppose just if anyone else has experienced similar and how to deal with it/did it go away?

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youalright · 14/02/2026 19:24

This is really normal it will pass and get easier.

PinkPanda99 · 14/02/2026 20:14

I definitely can relate to the feeling after therapy when you suddenly feel on your own again, it’s tough but it does get easier. If you haven’t already, I would suggest writing down anything helpful from the therapy that you’ve been told or learned in terms of patterns etc, to try and keep it fresh in your mind. Hang in there, you’ve got this.

Feelingsad2026 · 14/02/2026 20:18

Thank you both and sorry to hear you've felt the same @PinkPanda99
Do you think it's a sign I need more therapy? I didn't talk at all about my attachment issues which is ironic given this seems to have triggered them

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Suburbanqueen · 15/02/2026 21:44

I felt the same as you. I kind of fell in love with my male therapist. I knew it was a cliche but I really miss his wise counsel.

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