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What type of therapy ?

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Jenkibuble · 11/02/2026 17:18

I have a long history of poor MH - officially diagnosed after I had my youngest 18 years ago, but I suspect longer than this.
It consists of permanent low mood (I function but with a cloud over me ) combined with anxiety .
I self sabotage and this has ended lots of relationships including with ex h (we are amicable ,due to kids) and a few friends. As well as shorter term partners (one very recently)
I have become more open and vulnerable with people and communicate better (learnt the hard way about the pitfalls of bottling up)
I am on meds which take the edge off stuff, a higher dose wipes me too much (venfalaxine ) I prioritise good sleep, food as well as exercise and do stuff I enjoy !
I would prefer a more fulfilling job, and feel stuck in my current one (confidence holds me back I think !) but as sole earner I am limited as to my options (pay drop )
I have had CBT and have another set booked (starts tomorrow) but the fact that I need it again, makes me question whether it works or whether an alternative type would be better.
What other types are there?
I have no major trauma (pleasant childhood - siblings prove that ; they are OK)
Does anyone have any suggestions to alternatives to CBT?

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Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 11/02/2026 17:25

Everyone is different. People can only comment on what they have tried. There are lots of different therapies. I’ve seen several therapists both nhs and privately over the decades. My experience says it’s less about the therapy offered and more about how you connect and feel supported by your therapist - it’s the relationship that helps you heal. Basically interview them and ask questions. Many offer an initial consultation free - might be a quick conversation over the phone or in person. If you don’t connect, try another.
But that’s just my experience, others peoples experience will give them a different perspective. Good luck.

Jenkibuble · 11/02/2026 17:29

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 11/02/2026 17:25

Everyone is different. People can only comment on what they have tried. There are lots of different therapies. I’ve seen several therapists both nhs and privately over the decades. My experience says it’s less about the therapy offered and more about how you connect and feel supported by your therapist - it’s the relationship that helps you heal. Basically interview them and ask questions. Many offer an initial consultation free - might be a quick conversation over the phone or in person. If you don’t connect, try another.
But that’s just my experience, others peoples experience will give them a different perspective. Good luck.

Thanks for replying.
I should have clarified, it is a free one. I referred myself.
I have had private ones too before.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 11/02/2026 18:15

Given that you had no issues in childhood, what do you think was the root/trigger for your low moods? Identifying the origin is the best way of reversing the thought patterns and behaviours that it caused.

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