Fun people - please teach me to make friends!

[Anothergirl20384747]

I think I’ve realised that I was always kind of adopted by the fun people when I was younger and had a good social life as a teen, and since moving away from my hometown (15+ years ago) I’ve never had people to have fun with!

Its a massive hole in my life and I really want to fix it but I think I’m just not the outgoing, funny type that make friends easily! I join fitness clubs, never clicked with other mums at NCT, don’t feel comfortable trying to make my way into established groups, I’m not witty with comebacks or entertaining unless it’s with family. I’m good with a one on one dmc but I’m really sick of interacting at such a deep level all the time. I want some laughs and ‘banter’ (sorry I couldn’t think of a better word I hate it too 🤣)

I’m really wanting to turn it around now I’m out of the trenches with my kids. Any tips?

What do you find fun? What makes you laugh and brings out the most light-hearted version of you?

(For what it’s worth, you don’t sound unfun from this post!)

Aww thank you! I had a couple of bad experiences with some girls at school and a few ‘best friends’ who have turned out to be not so great after all so perhaps that’s impacted it, I’ve been called variations of ‘stuck up’ before so maybe I’m giving off that vibe but it must just be my face because I really don’t think I’m better than anyone!

I like exercise but it’s not how I’d want to socialise - I’m talking drinks and stuff, trips out to see bands and shows. I LOVE music, weddings and events, and as much as I’d hate to admit I am quite a deep thinker which traps me into those dmcs that drain me.