Being a supportive partner

[Orchidlie22]

Background - been with boyfriend 6 months, told me first off he has depression and is on medication. This didn’t bother me as so many people are and it’s very accepted now.

Been a great 6 months but now he is v depressed.

trying to help but feel he’s shutting me out….

he just wants to sleep a lot!!!

we don’t live together for info

Would love any advice in how I can support him?

Put your own oxygen mask first, don’t give more of yourself than you can.

@EvangelineTheNightStar thank you. After 2 weeks of a lot of “caring” I’m aware I need to look after myself first.

thank you for not telling me to leave him, expected people would say this

Exactly this!

ask to generate some rules and boundaries for you both so he understands you’re trying to be supportive but also you understand he might need th space. If he pushes you away take the hint. He may love you when he’s well but it’s soul destroying being regularly
puahed away. It might sound cruel to walk away but you need to protect
yourself and your own mental health too.

I was too late into a relationship to realise how important self care first is and I lost myself trying to care. Don’t be like me

Oh it’s so difficult….

but i want to be there for him and im trying not to take it personally when he doesn’t want to see me

im going away for half term without him so might be good for us both