Depression and mum burnout - not sure what to do

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I have had years of issues with depression and anxiety and am prone to burnout - where basically I get very depressed and can’t really function.

Ever since I had children I’ve been skirting another serious bout of burnout - and I’m right on the edge now. The issue is I’m more burnt out by family life than I am work. Would I still be signed off?

Pre-children I’d take time off for some self-care, but I now have to save every single day of my leave for childcare as my children hate holiday clubs.

I feel utterly overwhelmed, demotivated and low, but I’m not a tearful mess. If I went to a GP I’m not even sure what they’d offer?

I need to switch anti depressants but I’ve been stalling while I try to gently wean my baby. I’m on Sertraline and it does nothing.

Would love any insights from people who have been in a similar position.

You need to switch ADs as a matter of priority so book a GP appointment tomorrow. Jack in the breastfeeding if you need to in order to try other ADs. You owe it to yourself and yourself not to make the next few years like the past few years

How old are your children?

Not sure where you are, but around me the area is Saturated with holiday clubs covering everything you can imagine!

Does your partner not help?

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this, it is so tough when we need to look after ourselves but we can’t. If some leave will help then I would take it and the kids will have to go to holiday club later in the year whether they like it or not - get their dad to drop them off maybe? Look after yourself lovely.

Thank you for your kind (but firm!) message. Gave me the kick I needed to call the doctors this morning!

Eldest child is 6 and very shy so struggles with big groups where she doesn’t know anyone. My youngest is actually still at nursery - was trying not to be too outing. It might be better when they can go together but the big age gap means that’s a way away. Her friends all have siblings closer together or don’t need to use clubs so it’s tricky.

Thank you - appreciate the kind message. I find it really hard to put myself first as the guilt is overwhelming. If my eldest wasn’t so shy and could cope better at clubs it wouldn’t be so bad, but she gets so anxious.

Hope you have a better day today and find something to brighten your mood. Don’t forget that weaning will affect your hormones which can make some people feel low even if it is done gently.