Family court aftermath

[Lesleymumto2]

How do people get over the whole family court experience? I feel sick. I cant sleep. Its been my final hearing today. But I just cant shake this feeling of sickness and not sleeping. Will it pass in a few days? Will it pass once we get settled into the new order and routine? Right now I feel like in a state of shock? I cant explain. Should I go to the GP? Ask for sleeping tablets or should I give myself a few days to see how I feel. I am struggling at the moment. Any advice would really help. Thank you

When court was over I had an unexpected call from the court system asking me if I needed any further support. I said I felt burnt out and was unable to resolve my feelings and thoughts alone. They got me in touch with a therapist (from a charity). I went there for two years, it was incredible. Feeling like I have the tools to get past one of the worst experiences of my life. I also ended up doing the course to help people myself, they offered me a position but I moved out of the area. Hope you get the support you need x

Definitely therapy. I had counselling after then cbt. Some things I'll never forget though but you learn to compartmentalise. My DD never wants to leave home, she loves being at home. My ex is abusive and watching him lie and believe his own lies was extraordinary. Therapy really helped me process a lot of stuff.
How did your final hearing go? X

Can I get therapy or counselling on the NHS? I will look into this thank you. We got an order which I hope can work. But it's so hard sitting listening to the lies and the fact that things can be said without evidence being present however they can be believed. But kn terms of the order itself it should work. I hope it works. Because I never want to go back to family court again. X

I don't think I will get a phone call. It was really rather strange. And I felt like the judges hated me. It was a tough day. It's been a tough few years and I think I now need to try and move on and forget the past. But its just so difficult. I hope I can shake this feeling soon. X

I’m so sorry you feel this way, the problem with family court is there isn’t a high burden of proof, so a judge/ magistrate can decide what is right without a the rigour of a criminal court. I was so naive to this believing that justice would prevail and truth would be the basis of the decision. I was lucky the judge did make a decision based on the facts but so many children are not getting the justice they deserve. I think I got the phone call because of police involvement in my case and domestic abuse but please seek that help, look for family therapy charities in your area, go to your GP describe your thoughts and how it’s impacting you physically. I really hope you find the right treatment for you x

Thank you. I have been to the GP today and been referred for therapy so here's hoping this is the start of my healing journey x